lanamarie313 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I don't remember if I've posted about this guy before, but bear with me. I've known this guy for a while through grad school, but we were just friends. Eventually, he got my number and we started texting. Eventually we went out on a few dates. He's 25, but told me he's only had 1 gf, and it only lasted a few months. From the beginning, I could tell that he wasn't all that sure about getting into a relationship - definite hesitations with commitment. He asked what I was looking for, and when I said I'd eventually want a relationship, he told me he'd need time to think about it. Things never got physical. Then one day, after our last date, which I thought had gone really well, he called and told me that he had feelings for me, but that he wasn't able to commit to a relationship and didn't want to lead me on. I moved on. For the next 5 months, I'd get a text from him maybe once a month asking me random, stupid questions. I would always respond to these VERY briefly and wrap up the conversation, only letting it last for a few texts. I never initiated a text with him. About a week ago, he texted me again to ask me an opinion about a hat. I responded briefly, and he started asking me other questions about school, what I was up to, etc. He persisted trying to make conversation no matter how short I kept it, so I decided to give it another shot. He continued texting me all week. Finally he asked what I was doing on the weekend. I told him I had plans Friday, and would probably stay home on Saturday (we have finals coming up). He said "well I might just think of an adventure for us on Saturday." I said an "adventure" would be fine, let me know. Well, on Saturday he texted me ALL DAY. He never made mention of us doing anything, and I wasn't about to ask. Eventually, around 8pm I mentioned I was going to get dinner with a friend. He texted "Jeez thanks for the invite." I responded saying "What, you never said you wanted to do anything tonight. -_-. I assumed you were busy and didn't want to go on an 'adventure.'" I mean, if he wanted to do something, I would expect an invite WAY before 8pm. He said "Don't give me those faces, I should be giving you those faces right now. You know what happens when you assume things. Anyways, what are you having for dinner." When I answered saying "Why would you give me those faces, I didn't do anything." All he said was "Because I'm unamused with you." and then he changed the subject to something else. I was really annoyed at that point because I had anticipated that we were going to go out, and he hadn't even had the courtesy to tell me "hey, I'm not going to be able to go out tonight, I'm busy" or anything along those lines. That seems like common courtesy. I haven't answered his texts and I don't plan to at all anymore, but I'm just confused as to what the heck is going on in his mind. Is he just toying with me out of boredom? Also, I know people are going to comment "pick up the phone" but neither of us are phone people and I wasn't going to call him about this.
Janesays Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I think the guy is a flake and a game player. Roll your eyes and move on. Real men Dont play these silly passive aggressive games.
Author lanamarie313 Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 I guess I still had hope that he might have changed his mind or something. I can't make the least bit of sense out of the behavior.
Author lanamarie313 Posted November 30, 2013 Author Posted November 30, 2013 Update: After texting me throughout the week, he called me on Thursday to ask if I'd like to do something on the weekend. I said sure, and he said we should do dinner and a movie on Friday. We went out, and things went well. However, he treated me like a friend the entire time. No touching, hand holding, kissing, etc. It was like going out with one of my female friends. But he's told me in the past that he has no female friends and doesn't like to have female friends. So now I'm just more confused than ever! Was I friendzoned??
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