Scared111 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I'm new to the forum and need help and advice on a big problem I'm having that's making me feel terrible. I'll start from the beginning. I'm a young male and 5 months ago I met a girl that's 2 years younger than me and we hit it off immediately. I have a bad relationship history so I'm determined not to screw this up. We connected straight away and everything was perfect and 3 months later I asked her to be my girlfriend. At this time everything was so perfect and we joked about getting married etc. I was so happy and felt on top of the world and I think we were both falling in love, even though it had only been 4 months at this point. I recently graduated school and a holiday was being planned with my family. I knew it would be tough going away from her for 2 weeks because I spent a week away earlier in the relationship and it was terrible. It's important to understand that we are basically inseperable, I see her nearly every day. We both prepared to say goodbye for 2 weeks etc and I left. Immediately I felt terrible and bad thoughts ran through my head (her cheating) while I was traveling to my destination and I couldn't speak to her, I was extremely emotional and instead of looking forward to a holiday all I could think about was her and paranoid thoughts. When I arrived I immediately messaged her (which is how we've communicated mostly) and she said she was extremely upset and that she missed me and was very affectionate. The next few days we didn't speak as much because I was busy and when I spoke to her again she seemed much less affectionate and quite distant. I asked her what was wrong and she said that she's been seeing her friends to keep her mind off missing me because it was too emotional. I felt annoyed because I wasn't receiving any affection and it caused me to be cold and distant which I hated doing to her. A few days later I tried to fix the problem by writing some long paragraphs about my love for her and just good things about us hoping she would feel better, which she normally does when I do. Instead she didn't even reply and when I asked her what was wrong she said that it was too overwhelming and she needed less emotion while I was away. She said she's been hanging out with her girl and guy friends a lot and felt an "old vibe" with a guy she used to like. She reassured me that she loved me and made me feel slightly better but I still felt bitter and extremely paranoid and nervous about her and her behavior. I never would have felt that she would cheat and she was head over heels for me before I left but those words brought back bad memories about past cheating girlfriends. The next time we spoke we both were cold and distant to each other and she asked why I was being like that and I said because "you wanted less emotion". She said she would never leave me etc and I trust her but my paranoid thoughts are absolutely killing me and I feel like I'm ruining our relationship just by being away from her. Just today I spoke to her and we ended up talking about how we weren't talking properly and she said it's getting annoying because "she misses me and it's frustrating" and "she wants something more that she can't have" Sorry for the wall of text but can anyone give me some analysis and advice on what's going on. I still have another week on holiday and this is torture and I feel like were ruining what we had. Hopefully it's just her missing me a lot and getting emotional but it could be something more. Please help me
lino Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Doesn't sound good to me. You're relationship might be ending soon and could even already be finished.
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