Confusedguy81 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 So I am on day 18 I think of NC and today was rough for whatever reason. Maybe it's the snow. Who knows. I came back to this site after a breakup and today has been the hardest day. I actually beat the crap out of my punching bag for awhile but it didn't work. SOOO...yeah im venting and stuff.
Kermit76 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Spend as much time tonight dude to read the endless posts about dumpee's contacting their ex and what came of it. From someone who just did trust me man ITS NOT WORTH IT. It may seem so but you got to trust us. If she wants to contact you she will do it with all means possible. Quoting the film "He's Not That Into You"...."Don't call her/him..He doesn't like you". Hard to accept but the truth.
LostConfused123 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 You have a whole 18 days! That's HUGE!!! You are going through the "withdrawals" and are craving your "fix" It will pass. I promise. I know how hard it is. We all do and we are here for you. Just vent to us I'm so sorry you are going through this nightmare! But you are not alone. We are all in these awful trenches together.
underscore44 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Reach real deep down bro and keep yourself together. The outcome of contact could be much much worse then what you are feeling now. It is simply not fair to put yourself through that. Call a buddy/ family or sit on here but stick to your guns 2
Author Confusedguy81 Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 ya. I never really had problems before this but I was trying to read because I was gonna go to bed early and then I started obsessing over it. I then pounded my punching bag. I have no clue why I have this huge urge of negative energy.
Kermit76 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 It's normal to have these feelings. Don't beat yourself up over it. I couldn't believe I was doing so well and this unexpected flood came at my 3 month mark. Stay strong. It will pass. There are ups and downs. She is having them too. Believe me. 1
LostConfused123 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 ya. I never really had problems before this but I was trying to read because I was gonna go to bed early and then I started obsessing over it. I then pounded my punching bag. I have no clue why I have this huge urge of negative energy. Could be the holidays. It seems everything gets magnified by that. Hang in there!!
underscore44 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 yea holidays don't seem to help any situation at all
Kermit76 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Even worse when your ex says to you...have a good holiday and be well. It's like do you have any sense of compassion. We just broke up! Sigh
underscore44 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I could see my ex sending a message over the holidays to be well or something dumb but she would never get a response from me. I refuse to go backwards. When someone wants me gone i don't think twice about it. Just move forward and let that pain burry itself.
Author Confusedguy81 Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 how do I delete her from yahoo messenger? I thought I did but she popped back up. Whenever I put the mouse over her name, I press delete but If i visit my yahoo mail later she comes back up.
LostConfused123 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Even worse when your ex says to you...have a good holiday and be well. It's like do you have any sense of compassion. We just broke up! Sigh LOL! right!
ks0985 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I'm on day 13 of NC and I feel ya for me its all over the place. I might go a few days where I am okay, then one night it hits me hard. Just gotta stick with it and realize what you are doing is best for you and things do get better.
Author Confusedguy81 Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 nm ill just stay signed out of messenger.
hrtblds2ez Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 It's normal to have these feelings. Don't beat yourself up over it. I couldn't believe I was doing so well and this unexpected flood came at my 3 month mark. Stay strong. It will pass. There are ups and downs. She is having them too. Believe me. Is this really true? That he/she whoever the dumper may be is having similar feelings. I want to believe that but part of me doesn't. Anyway, I agree that holidays are tougher than other times especially if you have spent past holidays together. Luckily I'm working them all, that was my out, not sure how good an idea it is. I find myself reading this forum over and over trying to derive comfort and I think it works. Thanks!
ceez222 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Is this really true? That he/she whoever the dumper may be is having similar feelings. I want to believe that but part of me doesn't. ...I recently broke up with someone and it was so incredibly hard. Even though I am the one who did it, I cry daily and have the urge to text him every minute of every hour. Whoever broke up with you probably feels the same way.
ceez222 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 (edited) also...there isn't a minute that goes by that I don't question my decision. It's a whirlwind for the dumper as well as the dumpee. Edited November 25, 2013 by ceez222
taramg5 Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 The 60 day breakup Challenge!! Im doing the nc thing too and it is soooo hard! If you want to see my story or read my progress it would be great. Any feedback is very very welcome. Just start over and stay strong!!!
Phoe Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 I am at about 40 days and while I still am getting those urges to reach out, I am getting better at telling myself no and not feeling horribly pained about it. 2 weeks ago I'd curl up in bed in a ball and cry from the hurt and the anger at myself and from missing him. Now, I still get those same urges to contact, but I say "NO, you're getting better, don't screw it up" and focus on something else.
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