lulzatyourface Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 We had sex for the first time tonight after dating for a month and talking casually for a month beforehand. Before we had sex, I mentioned starting to fall for him, since he had said it before. He kissed me, and then I asked him how he felt. He said that he thinks he's falling for me, and I asked him if he was just being nice and if he meant it, and he said yes. Then we had sex. Now, we had talked about this issue when we first started dating. We both agreed that sex would be a big step, and how I do have a fear of a guy that I have feelings for leaving me after sleeping together. He reassured me three or so times that he isn't like that and that he will see me again. At one point I asked him if he meant as a date, and he joked, "No, as friends. Of course as a date." (I'm cringing as I type this.) I wasn't crying, and I've never mentioned specific guys or instances, so hopefully it didn't sound too baggage-y. I also told him that I trust him, and I thanked him for reassuring me and that it won't happen often. I mentioned having a stay-in movie night, and he agreed. Right before I got out of his car, I showed him how to save his home address on Google Maps. He said that he should save my home address on it too, so part of me thinks that he couldn't have been too scared/put off. I don't know. I just want to relax. But I'm so scared. So, so scared. I hate being vulnerable. I've been burned in the past pretty badly, and I just want to be able to enjoy this relationship, but it's difficult. Did I screw up?
Phantomu Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I don't think you screwed up. You are only looking out for yourself and acknowledging your fears when it comes to being in a relationship. If he can't respect that then he isn't a very nice person. You are not alone when it comes to guarding your heart. It's normal to have these fears when meeting new people. Give it time and go about it as normal. He might end up being a great partner for you. Who knows. Good luck
paigej91 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I don't think you scared him off at all. Though, he will know that you're hesitant/scared of progressing. I don't know the guy, but unless you have a bad gut feeling that isn't entirely based on your (slightly) irrational fears, I'd take his word for it and give it a shot.
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