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The dreaded breadcrumb . . . be careful what you wish for

LostConfused123

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LostConfused123 Established Member

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Hello everyone,

Some of you know a little about my story and thank you to everyone for your insight and support.

 

29 days NC. I was the dumpee. About a week ago I received a call from a number that "he" had called from once before two or three months ago. I had committed it to memory (not on purpose but just one of those weird and easy to remember numbers) Anyway, I answered (STUPID) said Hello....silence....said hello again...silence. I hung up.

 

Okay, I thought I wanted some sort of breadcrumb even though I knew I would never go back. I know....stupid! pointless! But at the same time, my self esteem had been shattered. Thought it would make me feel better. It did....for about an hour. My heart felt lighter and I was even a little "giddy" It was total relief from the agony I had been feeling but short lived.

 

About a week after he ended it, I blocked his number on my phone, blocked email, erased his pics (not even back ups of those, that one was tough!) EVERYTHING!

But the past few days I feel like I have regressed. I thought a week after this stupid breadcrumb I would be "back to where I was" not great by any means but getting better each day.

 

Idk, maybe it's the holiday coming up that's making me feel so sad.

 

I guess I just needed to get this out.

 

Has anyone wished for a breadcrumb and then when they got it, felt worse? So weird!!!! Thought I wanted it! UGH!!! :confused:

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So, be honest here... Was it the phonecall itself that makes you feel like this, or the fact that you perhaps expected more after that and it didn't come ?

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So, be honest here... Was it the phonecall itself that makes you feel like this, or the fact that you perhaps expected more after that and it didn't come ?

Wow! Good question! If I ask myself that honestly...

Oh Gawd! pathetic! I just realized I wanted another breadcrumb...NO a loaf!

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I think my ex gf ignored my one attempt at contact for the very reason she doesn't want me to get my hopes up. Hang in there. I am also up to a month of NC. I'd say another month of NC and we'll start feeling a lot better, given we are keeping busy. Don't worry about breadcrumbs, a whole new loaf is coming your way soon :)

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Wow! Good question! If I ask myself that honestly...

Oh Gawd! pathetic! I just realized I wanted another breadcrumb...NO a loaf!

 

 

 

I guess it's time to either start making your own bread or find another bakery :)

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I had this after my breakup, I know how you feel. My ex kept texting me the most random messages that were completely irrelevant to our break up - almost acting like nothing had happened. We had broken up before and I had taken him back only for him to end things again and absolutely shatter my heart. So when he started with the breadcrumbs I felt MUCH worse. I got angry; so angry that he would dare to contact me with so little to 'offer': he was just testing the water, like your ex seems to be. But I just thought how dare he, how selfish and how pointless. Id rather he had stuck to his decision and not contacted me ever again.

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I guess it's time to either start making your own bread or find another bakery :)

LOL!!!! You are awesome! I needed to laugh! That felt good :D

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I think my ex gf ignored my one attempt at contact for the very reason she doesn't want me to get my hopes up. Hang in there. I am also up to a month of NC. I'd say another month of NC and we'll start feeling a lot better, given we are keeping busy. Don't worry about breadcrumbs, a whole new loaf is coming your way soon :)

Thank you! Best of luck in your healing! Hopefully in another month we will be much further along. You hang in there too. My thoughts are with you :D

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I had this after my breakup, I know how you feel. My ex kept texting me the most random messages that were completely irrelevant to our break up - almost acting like nothing had happened. We had broken up before and I had taken him back only for him to end things again and absolutely shatter my heart. So when he started with the breadcrumbs I felt MUCH worse. I got angry; so angry that he would dare to contact me with so little to 'offer': he was just testing the water, like your ex seems to be. But I just thought how dare he, how selfish and how pointless. Id rather he had stuck to his decision and not contacted me ever again.

Did you block him or did he just stop? By the way, thanks for taking the time to respond :)

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