andyman21 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Long story about my relationship me and my ex were high school sweet hearts met when i was 17 she was 16 and dated for over 7 years. about 2 years ago she had broken up with me and i did everything wrong and basically just begged and cried and begged and so on until she finally took me back. we ended up having a baby together (15 months old now) and we even got engaged. it all seemed like it was going good, not perfect, but good and i always figured we would be together forever. it's been over a week that she left me but i am just barely starting to go with NC for my own good. i tried the whole being friends and so on but we would sometimes end up having sex i would end up feeling worse cause i knew it wasn't real. it has been extremely difficult for me these past days and i even thought i was going thru depression or worse. She seems to have already moved on with another guy, although she claims he is just a friend and that he talks to him to help her get over me. regardless I feel destroyed right now and i find no joy in life at the moment. i can't possible imagine myself going thru this for months, years it scares the heck out of me.
Philosoraptor Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Well she admitted she was rebounding in order to avoid her feelings... that's going to bite her in the butt in the future. But on your end right now all you can do is take care of yourself and your baby. Treat yourself well and do things that you will enjoy. Spend time doing your hobbies, spend time with friends and family, and put your attention on your child. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Sorry. You don't have the option of NC. You have a baby & that person's needs are more important that yours. This woman will be in your life forever so you better figure out how to communicate with her. You don't have to be super involved with her. You do need to speak to arrange visitation etc. In the short term, ask her for your child's sake to keep her new guy out of your line of sight. Rally your family around you & talk to a good lawyer. 1
fixing Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Sorry to hear of your awful predicament. But now, you have the most important thing in life, and thats your child. I agree with others, that you will have to find a mature way of communicating with the baby mother. Its not gonna be easy, but your priority right now is to give that baby the best start in life. Everything needs to revolve around your new born child. Sucks that she walked out on you, but there isnt anything you can do about that. Deffo, ask her to keep that other man out of you and your babies life though.
taramg5 Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Im going through the same nc thing. It is very hard but have found that challenging myself has helped...I read one time that the magic number to get over any person is 60. Sixty days with no contact. When I say no contact I mean NO contact! No late night/early morning text messages, NO drunk "I miss you" dialing and no "I just needed to ask you a question" emails or Facebook messages. I am however wondering if Facebook stalking is permitted, but I have a strange feeling that it's not. After reading this I have always thought..."I wonder if that's true. If it will really work." Well, I now unfortunately have the chance to find out. You can follow my progress here...The 60 day breakup Challenge!!
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