sasquach Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 i just need some honest opinons here. the short verson..... was in a long term relationship. i did stuff to upset her. she played with me, or my interpetation of her playing with me for 8 months, not sure if she wanted this or not. so i did what i could, accepted what she said upset her. after 8 months of trying, i gave up, and thats when she wanted a relationship. i wanted to talk to her about the past 8 months. everytime i told her what happened, and how it made me feel, she intereupted me and said no, and then told my why she was doing what she was doing. after going on and on with trying to express myself, and her contantly telling me no, interupting me, and telling her side, i gave up. i tried telling her that she needs to acknowledge how i felt, just as i did before she began, for a lack of better words, games. she did not want to. i told her that by her acknowleding how i felt, does not make me right. it just tells me she knows how i feel. my opinion, if she cannot acknwoledge how i felt during this time, the chances of it happening again are pretty good. i thank everyone in advance for opionions. 1
Grumpybutfun Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 sasquatch: You aren't really here seeking advice because you never asked a question, but are here for validation for your claims. No one can give you that because it is vague and is based on you feeling invalidated by her. Ask a question or seek opinions based on the facts, not on your feelings about the facts. You came to a conclusion....you don't need us for that. Best, Grumps
Author sasquach Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 ok, fair enough... isnt it a fundamental principle to acknowledge each others feeling when situations arise in a relationship?
Confusedguy81 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 ok, fair enough... isnt it a fundamental principle to acknowledge each others feeling when situations arise in a relationship? only in a healthy relationship. I had a gf that hated talking about her feelings and stuff. It was weird like we reversed roles. I was really open and she was really closed. But yeah, bad communication means bad relationship.
Grumpybutfun Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 ok, fair enough... isnt it a fundamental principle to acknowledge each others feeling when situations arise in a relationship? Sasquach: Absolutely. I think this is the difference between successful relationship and unsuccessful ones. I suppose you could look at you finding this out so early in your relationship blessing. The girl couldn't or didn't want to communicate. It is hard to relate to someone who can't do basic communications. I honestly think you dodged a bullet on this one. Best, Grumps 1
xUnknown Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Yep. If she isn't willing to listen to your opinion or feelings...screw her. That shows shes selfish and doesn't care about your feelings. Do the same to her next time she brings it up. Tell her, now you see how it feels....oh, btw, we're done. C-ya! 1
fixing Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Yeah, whats the point of being with her if she doesnt care about your thoughts, opinions and feelings? Never gonna work out anyways. Move on sir
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