Sassy1221 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I met this guy on line and we talked for about a week via text and the phone for about a week. It was really hard to keep the convo going that way so I asked him out. We had our first day and had a great connection talking can easy! After the date we texted just a few times each day and talked on the phone once before our second date. The second date was even better than the first and ended the night going to thrid base. We have a lot in common and have a great time together however I am leaving town for a week and am unsure how to keep it going so that we can see each other when I get back. I try to leave the convo open ended furring our text but will only get back a few words when he responds. I'm not sure what to do can anyone help?
JBrigg916 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I met this guy on line and we talked for about a week via text and the phone for about a week. It was really hard to keep the convo going that way so I asked him out. We had our first day and had a great connection talking can easy! After the date we texted just a few times each day and talked on the phone once before our second date. The second date was even better than the first and ended the night going to thrid base. We have a lot in common and have a great time together however I am leaving town for a week and am unsure how to keep it going so that we can see each other when I get back. I try to leave the convo open ended furring our text but will only get back a few words when he responds. I'm not sure what to do can anyone help? Tbh I don't like texting and much prefer talking in person since it is much easier to convey emotions such as sadness and humour. Don't worry if you're not any good at texting as long as you can connect with eachother in person. 1
befriendlyplease Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I met this guy on line and we talked for about a week via text and the phone for about a week. It was really hard to keep the convo going that way so I asked him out. We had our first day and had a great connection talking can easy! After the date we texted just a few times each day and talked on the phone once before our second date. The second date was even better than the first and ended the night going to thrid base. We have a lot in common and have a great time together however I am leaving town for a week and am unsure how to keep it going so that we can see each other when I get back. I try to leave the convo open ended furring our text but will only get back a few words when he responds. I'm not sure what to do can anyone help? I think you should tell him, "I'm leaving town for a week. I want to see you when I get back." 1
Author Sassy1221 Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 I think you should tell him, "I'm leaving town for a week. I want to see you when I get back." When I left him last night I said I'll see you when I get back and he said deffentaly!
Leigh 87 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I had a great connection in person with a guy, who didn't text me imbetween dates. I couldn't handle the fact he didn't text me. It's like I was not on his mind. Same happened with a guy I was crazy about. Met once, GREAT connection, then we went our seperate ways due to travelling. It did not work via text alone. You need both I think.. both good face to face connections PLUS a compatable phone manner. 2
d0nnivain Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Stop over thinking it. If you have a great connection in person build on that & don't worry so much about not having one through phone / text. Some people just don't care for either. Keep in touch, sure, but don't assume it's anything other than a preference for face to face if the technology keeping in touch is perfunctory.
MidwestUSA Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 You've been on just two dates, and are only going to be gone a week. A week with minimal, or no, communication isn't going to change things if there is a real connection. Did you set an actual date/time, or just leave it at 'I'll see you when I get back'?
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Probably not that into you as you are him...but in a week you can go on another date, the timing of your trip may weaken the limited interest he may have however, you might need to do some clingy behavior just to keep him on the hook...I'm sure you're familiar with that.
Author Sassy1221 Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 Probably not that into you as you are him...but in a week you can go on another date, the timing of your trip may weaken the limited interest he may have however, you might need to do some clingy behavior just to keep him on the hook...I'm sure you're familiar with that. No need to be rude all I am asking is for advise. I'm ok with not texting every min of the day in fact I prefer it that way. All I am asking is why doesn't texting with him come easy when it is so great in person? Yes I know that a week in the whole scheme of things isn't that long, but I want to be able to feel that he is still interested when I come back.
melell Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 This does happen quite often I think. I have experienced that reverse, great connection via text but little connection in person. I would say the connection in person is more important. Don't worry about the texting, and try not to read into it. Just go off how it is when you are together.
d0nnivain Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 he might not be a text-er. I'm not. Getting me to text you is like pulling teeth. Not everybody has the same preferred way of communicating.
mikecr50 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Advise-unsolicited I know, send him a couple of good mornings, what are you doing today? You will probably start a pattern and get the ball rolling. He might not realize how important that is to you or he doesn't want to come off as clingy- its a fine line. I had a woman that wanted me to call/text her more than I would have thought when starting out, not that I wasn't thinking about her :-) Wish I still had that contact!
todreaminblue Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Texting is good while you dont know someone......but once you meet and go on dates i feel texting should become redundant and voice calls and actual face to facet time are much more important...texts are good just to touch base........i am nto a good texter ....my humor doesnt come across....other than to make me look fruity....and i still havent found the smiley button....i have found guys dont text me except to ask me out or ask to come over...and i much more enjoy my face to face time...with friends family and dates....i like to see a person smile or hear it in their voice over the phone than the ambiguity of text messages......i like voices that are warm so yeah ...texting suuuuuucks...smilin.........deb 1
anne1707 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 People managed to date before mobile phones and texting perfectly well. Don't stress so much 1
todreaminblue Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 People managed to date before mobile phones and texting perfectly well. Don't stress so much with ya here sister....bring back payphone booths.......and steamy ....phone booths......used to break out of my house as a teen .....climb through and out my window....until my dad put a rose bush there.......and cycle to a phone booth......hee hee...ahem ...naughty ....phone booths rock.....deb 1
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