taramg5 Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 (edited) Im going through the same nc thing. It is very hard but have found that challenging myself has helped...I read one time that the magic number to get over any person is 60. Sixty days with no contact. When I say no contact I mean NO contact! No late night/early morning text messages, NO drunk "I miss you" dialing and no "I just needed to ask you a question" emails or Facebook messages. I am however wondering if Facebook stalking is permitted, but I have a strange feeling that it's not. After reading this I have always thought..."I wonder if that's true. If it will really work." Well, I now unfortunately have the chance to find out. You can follow my progress here..http://60daydatingchallenge.blogspot.com/ Edited November 26, 2013 by taramg5 spelling
aybc123 Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Um, last major breakup i didn't break NC, we hashed out a lot of stuff after the breakup and parted contact on good terms with me saying i had to not talk to her for a while now. She (who was the dumper) texted me about 4 months after that asking how i was that she missed talking to me and if we could be friends. I was more or less ok by this point and agreed, we've kept in sporadic contact since then over the last 4 years (though i didnt talk to her for 2 years during another relationship apart from happy birthday/ merry christmas texts as i didnt feel it was appropriate). This breakup well it ended amicably and then we had a huge falling out resulting in her ignoring me, i broke NC a couple of months after that by whatsapping a couple of cute picture messages asking to be friends. We've had some other limited contact since then, i cant really tell if im through the worst and can continue like this as i did for the previous relationship or if i havent even started my NC period yet.
radiodarcy Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 The first time I broke no contact all he could do was brag to me about the girls he was dating (he was the dumper): this one had a banging body; that one was really sweet.. in all honesty I've blocked out the particulars of that conversation for obvious reasons. I went strict NC soon after that for seven months. I was dying to see how he was so I broke NC again. This time he was very cold and asked me why I bothered to contact him after all this time. He broke NC a month later to tell me how his new girlfriend was pregnant with his kid and how happy he was. So um yeah- - breaking NC is never a good idea. At least insofar as it went for me
RDawg Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Been in contact a couple of times because we own a house together.. It has been two months since breakup. My pathetic begging episode: she came round to the house 1 month post breakup and I had it all set up: I had bought R2,500 worth of roses (That's $250) and had them strewn along the path leading up to the house, more roses everywhere in vases in the house, I had a fire going outside and U2's "With or Without You" playing on the stereo. When she saw this lot she almost bolted but ended up coming inside and let me beg and plead away. She spent a couple of hours and I cooked her favourite meal for her on the braai (that's a barbeque) and we had some laughs and tears and more laughs. She took some of the roses home with her and probably had great fun telling her family about my pathetic attempt to win her back. Two weeks ago we met for drinks after work and ended up doing more post breakup analysis, why did it fail, what we did wrong, she banged on about my faults, said she hopes I meet the right person and ends up happy blah blah ended with a nice hug. Last contacted her by email yesterday and asked if she was keen for an after work drink again and she said no thanks she just wants to walk the dogs and chill. Aai where and how will it all end?
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 Man that is not pathetic at all. Don't worry about it. one day people will realize what they lost.. If you have been good to her all the time don't worry about it. Just do NC now to heal yourself.. My pathetic begging episode: she came round to the house 1 month post breakup and I had it all set up: I had bought R2,500 worth of roses (That's $250) and had them strewn along the path leading up to the house, more roses everywhere in vases in the house, I had a fire going outside and U2's "With or Without You" playing on the stereo. When she saw this lot she almost bolted but ended up coming inside and let me beg and plead away. She spent a couple of hours and I cooked her favourite meal for her on the braai (that's a barbeque) and we had some laughs and tears and more laughs. She took some of the roses home with her and probably had great fun telling her family about my pathetic attempt to win her back.
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