smile95 Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 Please tell me there are others in LDRs that fo not talk everyday???? I would love to talk everyday and we used to, but he is so busy with work, somedays he does not call and it breaks my heart. The phone is ALL we have and he just does not get that it makes my day to hear from him!!!! Am I alone here? I have tried to tell him and he tells me he will try, but then a day passes and no call. THIS SUX
Pocky Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 My husband and I dated as an LDR for eight months. While I would see him every weekend, during the week we rarely talked much. We'd try to do a short call every night before I went to sleep but a lot of the times he wouldn't be home so we wouldn't talk. It was extremely hard on me as I'm sure it is for most people having LDRs. Is there an end date in mind? Will one of you at least be moving to live near the other or is the LDR indefinite?
Author smile95 Posted December 29, 2004 Author Posted December 29, 2004 there is an "end date" soon. He is finalizing a divorce in jan 2005. We have only seen each other 4 times in the last yr and it sux. I keep thinking of the future when we will be together, but it is lonely.
chryssy Posted January 19, 2005 Posted January 19, 2005 I actually have the same problem as you (posted upthread). I know exactly how you feel, and I am currently deciding what to do about it because we will be in this LDR for at least another year. And it's not just a day, he will go a week- 2 weeks without calling. I don't know what to tell you, I'm sure your boyfriend promises that he will change, and I guess you just have to decide whether to believe him or not, and if you can live with it if he doesn't change. It's hard, I know, but at least you have told him how you feel.
emopunk Posted January 26, 2005 Posted January 26, 2005 Talk to him about how you feel. He either starts calling every day, or he doesn't. Not calling is just a sign of not really caring about the other person's feelings in my opinion. Love requires work, commitment and sacrifice on both sides. If those components are not there... then love is not there. I have to wonder what it is that he's involved with that takes absolutely all of his time so that he can't spare 5 minutes to call you. You only work 8 hours a day on average and spend at most 2 hours in travel. Now you said he was finalizing a divorce, so I could see where this would take its toll on his time. But still, if he is seeing you, then you'd think he would want to talk to you all the more after dealing with all the details... not to mention talk about the little things that happen each day. But again, talk to him. Lay out how you feel about it. Ask him how he feels about it. And go from there. Sorry I don't have any better insight into this.
RecordProducer Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 Dear Beth, try to not be there when he calls. Be busy working, partying or whatever. He might start calling you every day or at least he will do it with more enthusiasm. You're apart and every phone conversation sounds like the previous one. You talk about the same things, hear the same voice. You see it as him making your day if he just shows you that he thought of you. He is obviously too sure in your love and faith. Intrigue him by playing a little game. Don't be available 24/7 for him. ;-) You don't want to play games? No game, no gain!
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