DontWorryBHappy Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 About a week and and a half ago the guy I've been dating sat me down and asked me to date him exclusively, while stating that he wasn't ready for a relationship. So it was a situation I'd never been in before (monogamy without an official relationship). When I asked him to comment a little more about that, he said that in the next several months he'd be mostly closed to a relationship and MAYBE a little bit open to it if he felt we really aligned. Being that he decided he wanted to be monogamous with me, I agreed to it because I figured, "hey, he's not going to be dating anyone else anyway. So if a relationship is to develop, this would be a good environment for it to happen." Then yesterday after an amazing day together, it went something like this:.. Him: "I think now I'm ready for you to be mine". Me: "What do you mean?".. (Obviously I think I knew what he meant but with something like this, I needed to hear it clearly.) Him: "Remember that conversation we had? When I said I wasn't ready for commitment? Well.. I think at this point, I've spent enough time with you now to know.... so whenever you want to take it there." Me: "Are you saying you're my boyfriend?" Him: "it can be there whenever we wan't to move it that way." Me: "It's there as soon as we say so :)" Him: "Then I'd be real cool with calling you my girlfriend." And the rest of the day was lovely, he opened up his feelings to me in a way that I never have seen from him previously. And I felt very sincerely that he cares about me.. with everything from the way he touched and looked at me, the words he chose to use when speaking to me, the random compliments about my personality traits, and the way he talked as though he expected me to be around in his future. So today I was thinking about how in the past, I've read that if a men says he's "not ready for a relationship" it doesn't necessarily mean that. It just means that deep down inside of him, he isn't quite motivated to be there with you yet. But as soon as he is, he will make it known that he is ready because he won't be able to stifle those feelings for long. 4
Author DontWorryBHappy Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 Me too! Either way it sure is a lovely beginning 1
Blade96 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 May I say that this is cute? Yes? Ok. This is cute! Hope you're very happy together.
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