TealQueen Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 (edited) My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. I'm not sure how to word my question, so I'm just going to give an example. When we hang out with his friend, my boyfriend and his friends basically have their guy time and talk about guy stuff while im left out. I feel like his friend is his #1 in his life right now. When it's just the two of us, everything is perfect and he's very sweet. However, I don't know if that's just because he didn't see his friend too often, so theyre catching up. . Or if that's just how it is. I know as a girlfriend, I might not be #1 in his life right now, which is understandable and fine. But this is really the only time I get to potentially see how he'd treat me as a wife. I don't want to just ignore this stuff because I'm just his girlfriend and assume it'll be different as a wife, because by that point if I bought it up, he could say, "this is how I've always been and you knew that and never said it bothers you. " So if that makes any sense. .. is there any way to know? Is this something I should just straight up ask him? Another example is I asked him to do something with his bed (something extremely easy) he first said he'd think about it. Then he said ok. Then he didn't do it. When I asked him about it he did, "I told you no" (it was something He wasn't too crazy about) I know it's HIS bed do he can do what he wants with it, but again, this is the only time I can get a feel of how things would be later on. If he wont listen to me on something that was very easy to do, will he listen to me as a wife on bigger issues? But I do have to say this. .. he does do what I want on a lot of things but they're things that don't matter. For example we will normally go out to eat wherever I want to go. Or if we go out to do something I normally pick what it is. Edited November 24, 2013 by TealQueen
d0nnivain Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I don't see many of those things changing just because you got married. He'll still catch up with friends he doesn't see often. He may still say no when you suggest things. If you were married, it would be your bed too so you could just make the change.
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