Lovesrules21 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I know this girl. I met her about a year and a half ago. Everything clicked, and we started dating about a year and half ago. This girl had everything. Or at least everything I wanted or needed in my life. We grew closer and closer, and I can say she is truly perfect and I love her, still. She is my first love. Our connection was so deep and I was convinced she was the one. I still am. About 3.5 months ago, she broke it off. I had no idea it was coming. Just one day, she explained she had doubts and she lost feelings. She has everything I want, including being a practicing Christian, which is everything I want. Now, I love this girl. Care truly about her more than myself. Looking back on it, I stopped doing the things it took me to get her. Stopped communicating, and being 'that guy' she needed. I just feel this way in my heart, that it's right. She was, and still is the sweetest, funniest, and a humble person. I still can't get her out of my head. She said she is moving on so it's over. There is something about this girl that I've never been able to explain, even to her. I wish I could tell her how I feel, no matter what. I can tell I lost her. I'm still confused on what happened, and it hurts. I'm not depressed, or angry. I couldn't hate her. I think of keeping her safe and taking the time to be the man who she needs me to be. The last two months of the relationship we stopped trying on stuff that really matters. Maybe it took me to realize and make a change. Think you for listening, anyone have thoughts?
Author Lovesrules21 Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 Thank you. It's just tough when I catch her staring at me more times than not. We'll see what happens.
carhill Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Feelings change and nothing is forever. I think to better understand this, you should date more and end more relationships yourself. This will assist you to better understand your emotions and the role they play in a relationship. IMO, in this realm, this is where women have far more practice and experience than men do. They start younger, long before 'official' dating begins and process more relationships/potential relationships along the way, gaining both social skills and life experience. She lost her feelings for you and told you she was moving on. Not bad, on average, especially if you and she are young and were together over a year. Not bad at all. Great life experience. Perhaps that's little consolation now, but in time it will make more sense. Good luck and welcome to LS.
Author Lovesrules21 Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 Thanks I appreciate it. Yeah we are both 17. I feel very special towards this girl so it's very hard to let go. So things I'll never understand, like her calling me and saying she loved me a few days before ending it. I think it'll be okay
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