Blonde123 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Me and my ex broke up over a year ago and was on quite bad terms, so we completely cut contact. He has been with his current girlfriend for 1 year now and we haven't spoken in at least 6 months, then out of the blue last night he rang me and said we need to meet and speak (he was drunk) I said why r u doing this and he said I just want to clear some things up. So we met and sat in my car and we spoke about the past etc and memories and he said that he doesn't want to get out the car because that will be it he won't get to see me or speak to me anymore. So we were chatting away and talking about our mistakes in past and etc.. He kept wanting to hug me alot, which i found a bit uncomfortable. Anyway before he got out the car he just passionately kissed me and after a while i would push away and he'd say sorry. His hands also started to wander at which point I said stop. We were a couple for 6 years and we have been apart almost 2 years. Sothis is so out of the blue. I'm soon confused and feel like I'm back to square one again because I was so happy that I'd gotten over him and moved on in my life, now this! Does this mean he is not happy in his current relationship? X
mcfcjay Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Who split up with who and was it a bad split? Your being played in my opinion, guys trying to have his cake and eat it, 6 years is a long time he clearly thinks about you any human would think of someone after spending that amount of time with them. You clearly also still have feelings, otherwise you wouldnt have gave him the time of day... I personally ****ing hate cheaters and he is cheating on his new girl which is massively unfair on her. If you want to work things out with him speak with him over the phone, tell him not to contact you whilst he has a girlfriend thats out of order. When he is single speak with him, if you want to give it another go then find out what he wants, although both lads and girls never know what they want... it changes all the time.
Author Blonde123 Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 He finished with me because he said we weren't right for each other and that he wasn't happy and he seemed to get a new girlfriend straight after. I know what he has done is really unfair on her and I should not have kissed him but like you said I probably still do have feelings there. Thank you for the advice
mcfcjay Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 In that case, hes realised what hes lost in my opinion... He was probably speaking to this girl during your relationship in my honest opinion, and for some reason (it happened to me) the attention of the other girl just seems so much more appealing, as horrible as it sounds... Hes gone for it and gaveit a go with her, after the honeymoon period hes realised that she isnt right for him. Sounds like he didnt have to deal with the break up as he had a new girl there right away, and now hes seeing her flaws hes having to finally deal with the feelings he suppressed... Talking from experience here... i missed my ex like mad once i lost her, but in my defence my ex was a total bitch who talked to lads behind my back and probably cheated who knows it was a blessing in disguise now loves stopped blinding me i see her for what she is
Omei Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Why you would go meet him while he was drunk was silly things that were said and done were under the influance and hes made being drunk as his excuse, if hes sober enough to have a heart to heart with you he's well aware what he's doing but he's "got an excuse" (sarcasem) I also think you're being played. Unless he says "I will leave my gf if we get back together" he's just going for a thrill, now he knows he can convince you to come at his becon and call. Stay NC.
me85 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 (edited) People do silly things. I hate it for ya! I'd be SUPER confused myself. Listen, you have obviously been on his mind for a while. So much in fact that you were BEFORE he started drinking. He got liquid courage then finally contacted you. You were a big part of his life. That may never go away. Seems like he moved on too quickly to get over you (most guys & girls make that mistake...I know I have several times over) and he still isn't fully healed...MAYBE. It was just a kiss. I know you feel terrible knowing he has a gf, I would too. But he kissed you & you did the right thing by not taking it any further when you clearly could have. If it continues to bother you a lot then maybe you should contact him & see what's up. More than likely he'll contact you again. STAY STRONG! Edited November 21, 2013 by me85
LadyM Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Alcohol is like a magnifying glass for how a person truly feels. So, he said to you that he doesn't want to leave the car because there won't be anymore contact. Take note of that. Also, the chemistry between two people doesn't necessarily go away just because one is with a new partner. He still feels passion for you; thus, the kisses and wanting more. I agree with the other posters that his mission was to try to play you. It is SO great that you didn't fall for it!! Good for you... 1
Confusedguy81 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Me and my ex broke up over a year ago and was on quite bad terms, so we completely cut contact. He has been with his current girlfriend for 1 year now and we haven't spoken in at least 6 months, then out of the blue last night he rang me and said we need to meet and speak (he was drunk) I said why r u doing this and he said I just want to clear some things up. So we met and sat in my car and we spoke about the past etc and memories and he said that he doesn't want to get out the car because that will be it he won't get to see me or speak to me anymore. So we were chatting away and talking about our mistakes in past and etc.. He kept wanting to hug me alot, which i found a bit uncomfortable. Anyway before he got out the car he just passionately kissed me and after a while i would push away and he'd say sorry. His hands also started to wander at which point I said stop. We were a couple for 6 years and we have been apart almost 2 years. Sothis is so out of the blue. I'm soon confused and feel like I'm back to square one again because I was so happy that I'd gotten over him and moved on in my life, now this! Does this mean he is not happy in his current relationship? X it means he's horny 1
Zahara Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 He hasn't seen you in over a year, contacts you out of the blue WHEN he is drunk, then shows up and doesn't say much about reconciling but empty talk about the past, then has the nerve to let his hands wander on your body? And he's in a relationship. What a prize.
Simon Phoenix Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Sounds like a recon mission to see where you were at based purely on horniness. I wouldn't read much else into it. He never said anything about wanting to date you, or breaking up with his girlfriend. He was looking for a piece, pure and simple, and good for you for not going any further than kissing. But yeah, he's not serious about wanting to get back with you and even if he was, could you honestly trust him?
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