ffmm Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 what does it mean when my boyfriend takes 3.5 years to finally post and tag pics of us together?
soccerrprp Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Some thought.... 1. He's finished playing the field and is committed to you for now. 2. He, after an insane 3.5 years, is now convinced that you're worth it. Have you spoken to him about this? In the past? After 1-year? 2-years? 3-years? 1
devilish innocent Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I'd be suspicious if he's kept positing and tagging pictures of everybody else in his life except for you. Otherwise, I wouldn't read too much into it. Maybe he just didn't think it was important to share something so personal with the whole entire world. I'm assuming that you've had a chance to meet his close friends and relatives during this time. If not, that's a different issue that goes beyond Facebook. It looks like he just had some good pictures to share or the mood just struck him to share. If there are other issues at play, then talk to him about it. Otherwise, I'd suggest just appreciating the pictures for what they are.
Author ffmm Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 1. He's finished playing the field and is committed to you for now. for now? what do you mean by that? 2. He, after an insane 3.5 years, is now convinced that you're worth it. do you think he is just falling in love with me now even though he has said i love you within the first year and all, so why did it take so long. is it more significant that he waited?
soccerrprp Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 (edited) for now? what do you mean by that? I would have been very conscious of the fact that, during the 3+ years, he hadn't made our relationship public on FB. Does he frequent it often? Does he regularly update it? If so, why did it take him so long? 1. He didn't want anyone else to know and/or 2. He wanted to be certain. I say for now b/c I would be suspicious. do you think he is just falling in love with me now even though he has said i love you within the first year and all, so why did it take so long. is it more significant that he waited? more significant? personally, NO. then again, he could have been waiting to see if you were the real deal. if I was certain or wanted everyone to know about you, I would have put you up on FB long ago. who knows for certain...perhaps he's sure now. I have a FB account and am very serious with my gf. I don't have her on it, but my family and friends know about her. Maybe he's like me and find it unnecessary to put everything on FB. Will I put my gf on there? I'd have to have a discussion with my gf. Social media is time-consuming and neither of us are too keen on it. We'll see... Edited November 24, 2013 by soccerrprp
thembones Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Facebook is the absolute, #1 worst thing for relationships! Oh god, and having the "relationship status" conversation.... 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Some thought.... 1. He's finished playing the field and is committed to you for now. 2. He, after an insane 3.5 years, is now convinced that you're worth it. Have you spoken to him about this? In the past? After 1-year? 2-years? 3-years? AHAHAHAAHAAAA! you got to be kidding me! I hope this poor girl knows better than to take that advice....that was spoken like a true hopeful woman. 1
MidwestUSA Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 The status will switch to 'engaged' in another 21.5 years. But seriously, too much emphasis is put on Facebook and all of it's BS. Is your bf lazy? Does he put everything else on Facebook (and I mean EVERYTHING)? Is it something that you and your social circle social circle deem important? Did he change his relationship status 3 years ago and just now learned how to tag pics?
Fondue Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 These threads make me a happier person for removing my facebook so many months ago. It avoids so much unnecessary drama. I turned mine off as soon as one of the girls I was dating at the time began to hint at giving our courtship a title. I knew that would end in FB drama, so I deactivated my account. I am no longer seeing this woman, but it made all my future relationships that much better. Didn't really ever have to have any FB related conversation since . Seriously though, get off FB. Your life will improve. You don't need it to maintain a social circle.
Keenly Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Maybe he just doesn't care about Facebook the way you do. Nor should he have to pretend to
Author ffmm Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 It means you should of left 3 years ago. Sorry. why is that?
snowflakes88 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 The same thing it meant when you talked about it here -- http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/405335-will-my-bf-ever-grow-up-marry-me -- Nothing.
soccerrprp Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 AHAHAHAAHAAAA! you got to be kidding me! I hope this poor girl knows better than to take that advice....that was spoken like a true hopeful woman. 1. I'm not a woman 2. I was giving some possible ideas as to why now 3. I would suggest you read my other posts on this.... 4. It was not advice for any course of action....
Author ffmm Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 1. I'm not a woman 2. I was giving some possible ideas as to why now 3. I would suggest you read my other posts on this.... 4. It was not advice for any course of action.... what other posts on this?
soccerrprp Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 what other posts on this? My second post clearly indicates suspicion. I am also presenting other possibilities. Look, if you want to hear all the bad, then focus on that. But, the other viable question is, after 3.5 years, why is he now putting your pic up? He doesn't have to, right? Could it be that he is finally settled on you? Of course that "could" be it. Why my suspicion? For 3.5 years no pics. I would be wondering why and what he was wanting to hide for those years. Why hide the relationship? Did you talk to him?
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