NGC1300 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I know it must feed into your ego; I'm sure it would for anyone, male or female for that matter. But why should I have to chase? The general attitude amongst men is that chasing makes you look desperate. So, I ask you out, you say "no" in however many words, and then isn't that it? Isn't it enough to let you know I'm interested just one time? 1
Kate9292 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I admire persistence and willingness to actually put an effort instead of giving up right away just because sth didn't go like when you dreamed about it. But if I say "no", I mean "no". Can't speak for other women.
soccerrprp Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I admire persistence and willingness to actually put an effort instead of giving up right away just because sth didn't go like when you dreamed about it. But if I say "no", I mean "no". Can't speak for other women. I agree with this. On another note, this is also the reason why some women get played. The think that every guy that chases them is really into them. They let their guard down and whammo, the next thing you know, the guy disappears. Difficult situation.... 1
Mascara Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 There's no "should" about anything. Do what works for you. And as with everything else, if that stops working - change. Or don't.
Ruby Slippers Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I wouldn't want a guy to keep pursuing if I said no clearly. I define chasing as the man taking the initiative to ask me out, plan dates, drive the relationship gradually forward by asking to be exclusive, expressing feelings, keeping in good touch consistently, bringing up future plans, making the moves. Women want this because we know that when a man is really excited about a woman, he will do all this and more with sincere enthusiasm and delight. If the woman has to pull the man along in the relationship, that doesn't bode well for the future. It's much smarter to be with a guy who clearly likes you and will extend himself to make sure you know it. 9
d0nnivain Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I think some women need to see some pre-ask effort to be "sure" that the guy is really into her & not just asking every woman he meets on a date. I do agree that once a man asks if the women says no there is no reason to ask repeatedly. That's game playing.
carhill Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 How can women honestly admire a guy who "chases" them? Some women do, essentially because it makes them feel good and they like feeling good and the man who chases them supplies them with feel good so they admire the well which feel good comes from. When they stop feeling good, the admiration ends and the chaser becomes a creep. The unhealthy conclusion to some of these stories is being married to someone who lets one love them. Not a place I'd advise, mainly because it's about a feeling not a person. Feelings are fleeting. People are sentient and mortal. IMO, make the most use of your mortality and pursue/interact with women you find to be compatible. If you find those who would implore you to 'chase' them as an impetus to their admiration of you to be incompatible, simply avoid those types. Good luck.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I know it must feed into your ego; I'm sure it would for anyone, male or female for that matter. But why should I have to chase? The general attitude amongst men is that chasing makes you look desperate. So, I ask you out, you say "no" in however many words, and then isn't that it? Isn't it enough to let you know I'm interested just one time? Your position could only be that of frustration. Why don't you ask the same questions as if you were one of 3 million sperm intent upon fertilizing a single egg, and maybe it will become clear then?
Ruby Slippers Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 So the man has to pull the woman along in the relationship then? No. It's more like gracefully leading a dance, with a subtle balance and counterbalance of leading and following. The woman will follow the man's lead fairly effortlessly if he's a good lead and she likes him. If not, she'll decline the dance.
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