CM2009 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 About a month ago I met this young lady at a friends wedding. We immediately hit off in terms of conversation and overall had a good vibe with one another. So we exchange numbers and started to hang out. Well things recently started to get serious between us in terms of relationship talk. And one night we were on the phone and she stated "we need to talk." So as a guy when a woman says that something is wrong. So she tells me that way back in high school (in the late 90's)she lost her virginity to one of my "now" good friend who was the best man in our friends wedding. And that was like a punch in the gut, she stated that it happened one other time and that was it but they are friends and nothing has happened nor ever will happen. Now I'm feeling confused because I even inquired about her before to him before I decided to really pursue her and he didn't even bring the incident up. I mean I appreciate her being honest with me, and I really do like her but it will just be very odd knowing that one of my best friends had sex with a girl whom I really like and care for. Now also before I forget I didn't know them at that time so if she or him didn't say nothing I wouldn't have no idea. I don't know what to think or do, any positive advice or answers would really help. But anyway everyone thank you for your time, take care....
Grumpybutfun Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Cm: Does this change the way you view her? G
soccerrprp Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Wow, I don't understand why this would bother you???? Really at a loss to why this is such a concern? 1. You didn't know this guy when it happened 2. Why in the world would he need or want to tell you that he slept with your gf long before he even knew you? 3. She told you when she didn't have to, so it sounds like she is opening up to you 4. This is all in the past, before you got together with your gf Are you going to let the past, of which has nothing to do with you, affect your current relationship with this girl? Wake up, man. We all have pasts and you need to focus on the here and now. You like her, then show it and move forward. 1
Kate9292 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 What exactly is the problem? That your gf is not the innocent pure virgin now? But then you'd probably complain about her having low sex drive or being a prude, right? So she tells me that way back in high school (in the late 90's)she lost her virginity to one of my "now" good friend Hello? We have 2013 now, actually it's almost over. It happened like 15 years ago. Do you expect her to not have any sex life for that long?
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