Grumpybutfun Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 (edited) Nope...but I believe in lust at first sight, or interest, or attraction. Why? G Edited November 24, 2013 by Grumpybutfun 3
Mascara Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 It only exists in hindsight. There are many many people you'll be attracted to in a crazy instant way. If one of them works out, you'll call it love at first sight. 3
todreaminblue Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Nope...but I believe in lust at first sight, or interest, or attraction. G i also believe in interest or attraction a certain something extra that catches a heart beat.......for askip.....lol..never really lusted after a guy.....or fallen in love on first sight...ihave however listened to a voice and heard it resonate......somewhere deeper than cerebral.soemtimes i feel a current sort fo thing.....go yeah shut up deb...grinnin...i do feel currents....this guy today i know without a doubt...felt a little ill when he saw me...i felt it...and i avoided him to make him feel better........deb
Grumpybutfun Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 i do feel currents....this guy today i know without a doubt...felt a little ill when he saw me...i felt it...and i avoided him to make him feel better........deb Deb: Did he have the flu or something? Why would seeing you make him feel ill? G
soccerrprp Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 It only exists in hindsight. There are many many people you'll be attracted to in a crazy instant way. If one of them works out, you'll call it love at first sight. Yup, this! People will tell you it was love at first sight long after the fact. Lust, intrigue, fascination, attraction at first site, well, that's much more like it. Love? How can that be and I'm a self-professed romantic....
d0nnivain Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Absolutely. Well, sort of. I need that initial zing. I got it with my most of the guys I dated long term, including my husband.
MidwestUSA Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Deb: Did he have the flu or something? Why would seeing you make him feel ill? G :laugh:
carhill Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Do you believe in it? Decades ago, I did but, over time, learned more of the nuances of attraction and limerence and 'love' in the comprehensive sense and now 'see' it for what it is, pleasing shapes resolving on one's retina and impulses sensed by the occipital lobe and processed by other parts of the brain as 'wow, that appears hot; let's send some hormones down to the penis parts'. Life goes on. 1
Lokie Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 There is a speaker in the 12 Step group of Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) who has a hilarious talk about this. Because ACAs tend to attach to anyone who pays attention to us, he says that if you see someone across the room and all the fireworks go off in your body… RUN the other way! In my experience, cray cray lust rarely lasts. But damn, it's fun in the moment! 1
ThomasD Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 It only exists in hindsight. There are many many people you'll be attracted to in a crazy instant way. If one of them works out, you'll call it love at first sight. i also believe in interest or attraction a certain something extra that catches a heart beat.......for askip.....lol..never really lusted after a guy.....or fallen in love on first sight... Like others have mentioned, my thoughts are the same. i have however listened to a voice and heard it resonate ...... somewhere deeper than cerebral. (I know this isn't what you are saying, but your thought brought it to mind since we are talking about things that can trigger attraction before a true acquaintance develops.) My voice is naturally somewhat deep. (What passes for singing from me comes out as a bass.) Long after I became very married, women have made passing comments (or I overheard their comments to other women) to the effect that they found my voice sexy. That was a real surprise, since my voice started changing before most of my peers and I was often teased about it so I never considered it an attractive feature about me. (On one occasion even my mother mentioned to one of my sons that he could look forward to having a voice like mine when he grew up. And she occasionally asks me to read things aloud for her. I don't know if she is especially attracted to my voice, or if it mainly reminds her of my departed dad.)
MalachiX Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 No. You can't love someone without talking to them. Without communication it's just attraction and probably projection (on what you'd like the other person to be like). Even times when I fell for someone really click, I realize it was actually something about our first conversation or the way we interacted that really did it.
todreaminblue Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Deb: Did he have the flu or something? Why would seeing you make him feel ill? G maybe he did have the flu.....smilin......make fun of me then grumps....i swear i felt it....maybe it was me feeling sick though....lol..no actually h esint well adn i felt it i think.....he cant stand me by the way thats why i think he woudl feel sick........deb
Shepp Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 You can't love someone without talking to them. Without communication it's just attraction and probably projection (on what you'd like the other person to be like). True! When my headmistress first brought my gf into our classroom on her first morning I nudged my best mate and I said to him "Right there - she's gonna be my gf" ....which is honestly true (not that I've ever told her that). But - I didn't love her! I was half projecting on the fact she was stunning and hoping she'd be cool, and half making a comment for the sake of making a comment - trying to get a laugh out of my mate. I didn't love her. I could see she was beautiful as could everyone but for all I knew then she could of spent her time drowning puppies and scratching the paint off Ferrari's!! I'm sure you probably can fall in love with the exterior and maybe even the 'idea of a person' on first meeting but not actually love the person for who they are.
Author napy666 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 True! When my headmistress first brought my gf into our classroom on her first morning I nudged my best mate and I said to him "Right there - she's gonna be my gf" ....which is honestly true (not that I've ever told her that). But - I didn't love her! I was half projecting on the fact she was stunning and hoping she'd be cool, and half making a comment for the sake of making a comment - trying to get a laugh out of my mate. I didn't love her. I could see she was beautiful as could everyone but for all I knew then she could of spent her time drowning puppies and scratching the paint off Ferrari's!! I'm sure you probably can fall in love with the exterior and maybe even the 'idea of a person' on first meeting but not actually love the person for who they are. So did she end up becoming your gf?
GoodOnPaper Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Do you believe in it? No. Even for mutual "lust at first sight", both people would have to be really good looking. I think that for us regular folks, any type of instant chemistry that's mutual is rare indeed.
Shepp Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 So did she end up becoming your gf? She did about 4 years later!
Justletgo Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 I have had it a couple of times when I was younger. Hadn't even spoken to the girls in question yet. I am not talking about lust either, because the girls were on my mind almost continuously. So yes it does exist (for me anyway). But it's VERY rare. And I haven't had that experience in a long time. Maybe it's only something that happens to kids/teenagers, like I was at the time
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