freebird31 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 (edited) I know this is stupid. But after me and my ex broke up. He said he still wanted me to stay a part of his life. This is the sequence of events during my breakup that really messed with my head. Time #1 - (WEEK 3 after break up) I told him i could not remain friends with him because it was too hard. and he said ok. and so I THOUGHT that was that. Time #2-(2 months after break up) get a call from him. i got back at him a couple days later thinking it had to do with maybe he wanted to get back together. NOPE. i was wrong. We ended up kissing and cuddling but he said he didnt want a relationship right now still. After i told him we should not talk anymore and to please no longer contact me so we can move on. Time #3- (2 weeks later) I get a text from him and call saying he needed a favor. I told him to please stop contacting me and left it at that. Time #4- 2 weeks later - he calls me bc some type of emergency happened. felt extrememly guilty so i had to make sure he was okay. broke NC AGAIN. during which, he tells me he would like to see me if it was okay before his move (a couple hrs away for college). i told him it was not a good idea and no i could not.(WHAT WAS HE THINKING?!) Time #5- 5 months after breakup. - missed call from him. this time i had it. I blew up and spillt all my emotions and told him he was so damn selfish because i just had asked for space to heal and he was making it so hard for me. And said we must move on and let go. 7 months later. havent heard from him in 2 months. he finally got the point. but i still look back at this and think WTF?!! what the hell did i go through? that was the most confusing and hardest thing to do to reject his attempts at contact! i shouldnt have replied but gosh it was so damn hard for me. i know im going to get judged for this bc maybe i should have never replied. but WOW !? he put me in such a damn rough position esp the emergency one!! gosh SO glad thats over ugh. /= But why would he be so rude to disrespect my space all those times? any thoughts? maybe some people just simply have no common courtesy, ****. I'll also add he was the one that wanted the break up. Looking back at this, i want to slap myself. If he ever tries contacting me again, i know better to NOT reply and get myself in this damn mess. BUT my question is do u think I played a major part I'm the reason why he wouldn't leave me alone? Or why do u think he kept coming around!? Edited November 24, 2013 by freebird31
Philosoraptor Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 He was contacting you for selfish reasons every single time. Whether it be to boost his own ego or to take away his guilt. Your relationship was over so no matter if he had an emergency or not you were not part of his life so you shouldn't have been burdened with whatever news he had.
Author freebird31 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 He was contacting you for selfish reasons every single time. Whether it be to boost his own ego or to take away his guilt. Your relationship was over so no matter if he had an emergency or not you were not part of his life so you shouldn't have been burdened with whatever news he had. He was very selfish, i dont think ive met anyone less courteous. I just think its ridiculous looking back. I mean im over it now, I no longer hold the anger i once had. But I just try to generalize the situation sometimes, and I just want to figure out what was going on in his head?! I'm just damn curious.
Author freebird31 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 (edited) it just really makes me wonder WHY ON EARTH WOULD ANYONE CONTACT SOMEONE THIS MANY TIMES AFTER YOU CONTINUOUSLY TOLD THEM YOU WANTED SPACE????? i just dont get it sometimes. Edited November 26, 2013 by freebird31
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