harhar Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I met this girl in the Summer, outside of a busy bar in the city centre. We exchanged numbers while I was intoxicated and she thought nothing of it, as she thought I was the funniest person she has ever met, which I usually am when I'm intoxicated. Long story short, she became a one night stand.. I started to develop feelings for her, I met her friends, and they all loved me. We got along perfectly fine, and many people noticed that we had the chemistry. I had single girls come up to us while I was having a conversation with her and tell us how envious they were because we seemed happy with each other. Anyways, 3 weeks later, September came around and she went to school in Boston. I used to attend a University there and was affiliated with a Fraternity in that city. I visited her in September and introduced her to Frat, and spent time with her, and then she had her reading week and came back home and she stayed at my place. Eventually.. Our Skype dates shortened, communication started to decrease on her response time. She messaged, "We need to talk"... 2 weeks ago she said she had feelings for someone else here and was confused about our LDR. She said that she still "Liked" me. I felt like a 7th grader was talking to me. We've done everything in bed, and we were honest about our feelings.. I was distraught, and stressed from school already. I immediately cut her off, and wished the best of luck in life and said that a friendship was not optional, and sent her an emotional last message that this was for her own benefit to move on seek the happiness she desired, and deserved. I eliminated myself from her life.. She was upset and blocked on her on Facebook. I miss her every single day, and it's only been 2 weeks. I wonder if she ever thinks about me, and how long it will take until she completely forgets. We never had a label, but she was comfortable enough to know that we were seeing each other. I treated her like Gold, but kept distant as well. She lives in the same town I currently attend school at, she'll be back in the summer and my only comfort is knowing that we will be in the same city for 4 months straight again.. But she's with someone else and I was stupid enough to accept it so easily. She wanted to be free from me.. Sad thing is less than 15 days of having sex, she pulls that card on me. NC for 2 weeks and counting.. It was pretty clean breakup or agreement to stop seeing each other. I know I will heal, and that there are more important things such as school, but I really do miss her... Any advice Lockshack?
StyleOnEm Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I bet she'll get in touch with you at some point. Right now all you can do is continue living your life, as I'm sure you have no problems meeting women. Remember not everyone is meant to stay in our lives forever. Appreciate what you had & as cheesy as it sounds, if it's meant to be she will come back to you when she's ready.
nevergoodenough Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I met this girl in the Summer, outside of a busy bar in the city centre. We exchanged numbers while I was intoxicated and she thought nothing of it, as she thought I was the funniest person she has ever met, which I usually am when I'm intoxicated. Long story short, she became a one night stand.. I started to develop feelings for her, I met her friends, and they all loved me. We got along perfectly fine, and many people noticed that we had the chemistry. I had single girls come up to us while I was having a conversation with her and tell us how envious they were because we seemed happy with each other. Anyways, 3 weeks later, September came around and she went to school in Boston. I used to attend a University there and was affiliated with a Fraternity in that city. I visited her in September and introduced her to Frat, and spent time with her, and then she had her reading week and came back home and she stayed at my place. Eventually.. Our Skype dates shortened, communication started to decrease on her response time. She messaged, "We need to talk"... 2 weeks ago she said she had feelings for someone else here and was confused about our LDR. She said that she still "Liked" me. I felt like a 7th grader was talking to me. We've done everything in bed, and we were honest about our feelings.. I was distraught, and stressed from school already. I immediately cut her off, and wished the best of luck in life and said that a friendship was not optional, and sent her an emotional last message that this was for her own benefit to move on seek the happiness she desired, and deserved. I eliminated myself from her life.. She was upset and blocked on her on Facebook. I miss her every single day, and it's only been 2 weeks. I wonder if she ever thinks about me, and how long it will take until she completely forgets. We never had a label, but she was comfortable enough to know that we were seeing each other. I treated her like Gold, but kept distant as well. She lives in the same town I currently attend school at, she'll be back in the summer and my only comfort is knowing that we will be in the same city for 4 months straight again.. But she's with someone else and I was stupid enough to accept it so easily. She wanted to be free from me.. Sad thing is less than 15 days of having sex, she pulls that card on me. NC for 2 weeks and counting.. It was pretty clean breakup or agreement to stop seeing each other. I know I will heal, and that there are more important things such as school, but I really do miss her... Any advice Lockshack? I mean what else can you do, beg her? You did the right thing as quickly as possible. If she contacts you in the future, awesome. I think you did the best you could to make that a possibility. The rest is on her. When you are in the same city, you will probably worry about seeing her with her new bf though (on a side note). Still though, you played your card. I know it hurts, I miss my ex so much, but you did the right thing.. I did not :/
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