Blastbeat Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I do want my ex girlfriend back, but I think that it's probably not going to happen now and I should just move on. We were together nine months, never had a fight once, and we were happy as together, talking every day all day etc. In August she broke up with me saying she couldn't see a future together and I said ok and deleted her off my Facebook. It took a day before she was frantically messaging me and then my mate trying to get me back. We reconciled quickly but she dumped me again one month ago. She said "I really care about you but its over for good this time. You haven't done anything wrong. If anything i am a **** girl friend. I know this means you Will never speak to me again which sucks massively. Please don't hate me." So I said Wow. Ok. and initiated no contact again. (No contact for giving her space, and hopefully change her mind/if not, move on). I don't by the "it's not you it's me" line, ever. I am currently paying off mega bills and debt and never have money to do anything, whereas she has been paying for dates etc. for a while now, and wanted to do stuff with me like go overseas for holidays. So i guess i just accepted it and i text her once a couple days later saying “miss you heaps” and she said “dont be sad and ill pick my stuff up later this week if that suits”. She never contacted me to pick up her stuff. It's still in a bag here, bunch of clothes, couple pairs of heals etc a month later. maybe she doesn't care about it. I messaged her two days ago after a month space saying if she wants to pick her stuff up I wont bite, I accept my part in the break up and I am working on being a better person for future girlfriends. Although I don't think it's healthy to maintain contact as friends, I think you're awesome and I hope you find someone that makes you happy. If you don't want to pick your stuff up I'm happy to courier it. Then she just ignored me. Why would she ignore me? I've never done any begging, pleading or anything. I think maybe I should just leave it and not contact her again? Surely she would let me know if she wants her stuff back. Is it normal for the dumper to do the ignoring?
Purepony Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Yes after a breakup anything is possible my ex cheated on me she's mad at me and ignores me like I'm the bad guy.. but when she needs something she comes around and then disappears again Go nc
Omei Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Shes not answering you becaude she's left you she doesnt want to be with you and she doesnt care about the stuff, she would rather give up the stuff then come get it. While you're not begging you hope that she misses you and have kept the stuff so long for a reason to contact her. throw out the stuff it will feel good stop contacting her.
beach Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 It's not nice of her to toy with your feelings that way. I'd send her things by mail or have a friend drop them off to her. No note is needed. 1
J21 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Don't contact her and just leave her alone dude. It'll look pretty bad and desperate if you start talking to her with the intent of getting back together. The last thing you want is her to get back out of pity, she'll then just break up again once the guilt or pity runs out. It sucks, but as the dumpee, you gotta focus on yourself and move on. Work out, reconnect with old friends, and pick up hobbies. Get back out there once you feel ready. She might return someday, but you definitely shouldn't be waiting around. Really sorry bro, didn't want to mince any words and give it to you how it is. We all go through heartache, it's an inevitable part of life. 1
Author Blastbeat Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 I'm not going to throw out her stuff, that's just plain nasty. It's sitting in a bag in the closet. If she wants it she'll let me know. I just thought it weird for her to ignore me, when I wasn't at all implying any way to get her back.
LadyM Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I'm not going to throw out her stuff, that's just plain nasty. It's sitting in a bag in the closet. If she wants it she'll let me know. I just thought it weird for her to ignore me, when I wasn't at all implying any way to get her back. Obviously, her stuff doesn't mean much to her as she is not interested in getting it back. She could have had a friend come pick up her things. I don't know that it's your responsibility to make anymore effort to get her things back to her. I would give it away for a donation, but first tell her your intention and see if you get a response, and if no response, donate, because you do NOT need to see her stuff in your place any longer. Just a sad reminder... 1
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