freebird31 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 It's been 7 months since we've broken up and 2 months NC. I'm slowly SLOWLY getting over it. I mean I don't feel pain or anger no longer. But I still think about him from time to time.and all the good times we shared. I feel like a loser sometimes because I do still think about it every now and then. When he's probably way past it by now. Ill also admit I feel a little embarassed for feeling anything at all even 7 months later. I hate that I'm still not FULLY over it. I'm better but not fully over it yet...I guess I'm just ashamed it's taking so long.
BlametheIrish Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Don't be ashamed of how you feel. If you felt very strongly about this man during your relationship then of course it's to take some time to get over him. And it seems you two still kept in contact for a bit after you broke up, that always seems to keep the wounds from healing up faster. It sounds I'd suggest leaving little time in your schedule to dwell on things,like this. And when you inevitably do, remind yourself that it wasnt all good things,or ypu wouldnt be broken up. For instance years ago I broke up with an entitled little brat masquerading as a sweet caring guy. Whenever I thought about the good times yhat made me sad, I forced myself to think about how much of an (insert mean expletive here) he was when he (insert extremely painful memory here). And that made me a bit mad, I channeled that energy in a positive way and founf the inner strength to move on, promptly leaving my mental baggage behind, because lifes to short to obsess over things we cant change. I Know that its easier said than done but I think ypur first step is tp stop beating yourself up about the way ypu feel. Self pity breeds more self pity.
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