Radioguy81 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 I've had a gf for the past 3 years or so. Im 32, shes 25. It's not exclusive by any means here latley. Just a lunch a couple times a week, talk/text often. I'm wanting to move into a more serious relationship with her, but she seems really hesitant when I bring it up. I've never met her family but she has met mine. Never talk much on the weekends. I think there might be someone else. But I had a birthday last Friday and all I got from her was a text saying happy birthday. No call, nothing. So I haven't communicated with her since. She has text me asking what's my deal, text me so I don't worry, etc. I'm tired of chasing her and getting nothing in return. Is this a good approach to finally see if she will chase me for a change?
miraclesdohappen Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 I think she wants to move on but she is scared to, she knows you and she is used to you but come on she can't be in love with you, never talk on weekends??? Maybe there is someone else, your instincts are usually right. Are you happy? Do you think she is happy? If not, move on and find someone who will make you happy. This girl is not serious about you. Girls like the attention and if you stop giving it them they will chase you for the attention for a time maybe, but she doesn't really want you.
d0nnivain Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 If you want answers & if you want to move forward in a healthy way you need to talk to her, not play games. Sit her down, say you want an exclusive relationship & ask her what she wants. If she doesn't want what you want you have to decide if you are OK with the status quo or if you want a clean break. 1
RaynOfFire Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Personally, I don't think shes looking for something as serious as you are. A woman will stand her ground if she wants you and wants to build with you. As long as you guys have been together she should have had an organized bday waiting for you.. Instead a text? F that.. I think your barking up the wrong tree if your looking for something long term and serious.. 1
Acacia98 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 But I had a birthday last Friday and all I got from her was a text saying happy birthday. No call, nothing. So I haven't communicated with her since. She has text me asking what's my deal, text me so I don't worry, etc. I'm tired of chasing her and getting nothing in return. Is this a good approach to finally see if she will chase me for a change? No. If you start playing these "let's see if she calls me" games, you may wind up having this situation drag on longer than it needs to. Do what the other poster above suggested: Sit her down and talk. Tell her that you want a full-fledged relationship with everything that entails. When she shoots you down (which I'm assuming she will), that's your signal to say goodbye and walk out the door. (I think you're better off moving on. It does sound like she has somebody else.)
Author Radioguy81 Posted December 29, 2013 Author Posted December 29, 2013 Just giving a quick update here. She finally text asking if I was alive and replied back and laid it out for her. I told I need more than what we arevdoing currently, its been 3 years and I want a relationship. She asked if we can just be friends and I said that's what we are now and it doesn't work for me. She then said she had been praying about it and that this was the sign that it's not meant to be, I told her the ball is in her court and we haven't talked in well over a month.
Art_Critic Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 To me it seems after reading your update that there is someone else. sorry... 1
LadyM Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 So sorry, but at least you now know and you can move forward. So much better than hanging on and wondering. 1
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