tiki Posted January 20, 2005 Posted January 20, 2005 WTF is up? Is she that lame?! Guy moves from Cali to Florida to be with you and you don't call him? That's just not right. Period.
midori Posted January 20, 2005 Posted January 20, 2005 Originally posted by UCFKevin Well, don't you think she'd have called by now? I mean, honestly, there's no reason for her not to have, if even just for two seconds to say how she's doing, which I'm genuinely wanting to know. I dunno. It ain't looking good, I feel, bad feeling about it. Others feel the same way, sadly. If she calls, cool, if not, well....life must go on. Not good behavior on her part, but if she's going through a lot of bad stuff (as it seems she is), it's understandable. Not how I would behave, but I know some excellent people, my best friend among them, who just withdraw from the world at large when the going gets rough. They can only handle so much at a time, and even common courtesy goes out the window. If she does know that she was a big factor in your move back to FL, she might feel like you have expectations that she's unable to fulfill right now ... which makes some people pull away all the more. In my view it exacerbates the situation, but what are you going to do? You know what Kevin, you've got other reasons for being in FL right now. If you focus on getting that stuff taken care of (find job that lets you earn lots of cash, get your photos done, etc) then you can not feel like you've wasted this move. If she comes around eventually, great. Although I think that this is showing you what she's like -- not necessarily a bad person. But you're now getting to know the real her, not the idealized person you've been crushing on for the last several years. The real her might be someone with some character traits you dont' like so much... Time will tell. Hang in there, the move wasn't for naught.
Stone Posted January 20, 2005 Posted January 20, 2005 If I we're you I would just get some closure out of this situation and move on. I understand she may be going thru a hard time but she could have called.. Let it go and move on
RowanRavyn Posted January 20, 2005 Posted January 20, 2005 Originally posted by midori You know what Kevin, you've got other reasons for being in FL right now. If you focus on getting that stuff taken care of (find job that lets you earn lots of cash, get your photos done, etc) then you can not feel like you've wasted this move. If she comes around eventually, great. Although I think that this is showing you what she's like -- not necessarily a bad person. But you're now getting to know the real her, not the idealized person you've been crushing on for the last several years. The real her might be someone with some character traits you dont' like so much... Time will tell. Hang in there, the move wasn't for naught. Nicely put Midori! Thought it needed to be quoted.
Author UCFKevin Posted January 20, 2005 Author Posted January 20, 2005 Yup, well said, all. I mean, if it was 100% why I moved back, I'd be crushed, but it wasn't, so I'm okay with it, to be honest. Maybe it is too early, maybe I'll hear from her, if I do, we'll see how it goes, and if I don't, well...there's someone else out there for me. Somewhere.
Author UCFKevin Posted January 30, 2005 Author Posted January 30, 2005 Well, I'm back in the swing of things, so to speak. I got a job as a waiter at Chili's here in Orlando, started last Monday, and I already have two girls fighting over me. It's so friggin' nice to live in a city where girls actually show interest. I missed that.
Stone Posted January 31, 2005 Posted January 31, 2005 HAHA when I go to orlando next month I'll know witch waiter to go Harass!! LMAO Just kidding. But at least you came back in season so you should be doing pretty well. See everything will be o.k. and as far as the girls let them fight over you for awhile you deserve all the extra attention right now. Everything will work out fine. Why don't you try to get an acting job at one of the dinner theaters?
clandestinidad Posted January 31, 2005 Posted January 31, 2005 Can I join in the fight for you?!?!? HAHA...my boyfriend and I have broken up, so I'm freeeeee.....after all, we DID say we were perfect for each other!!! (let's talk on our secret website that you got me hooked on...heehee) BTW, I'm really glad that you were able to see her true colors after all. She may be nice and wonderful, but you obviously want someone that will turn to you and TALK about what's going on in her life, rather than someone who completely closes you off. Anyway, I'm glad to hear that youre doing so well!!!
Merin Posted January 31, 2005 Posted January 31, 2005 Good God.. girls fighting over you? Hmm.. funny isn't it, it always seems the one you want, ulitmately is the one YOU think is worth fighting for.. Well Kevin, who knows what happens from here.. I'm happy you're getting back into things and you seem to be doing well
katie79 Posted January 31, 2005 Posted January 31, 2005 Kevin, hard choice to make. you have an excellant career going...coming from someone w/a degree in film and cinema studies!! a tough job to find. however, i am getting the feeling perhaps you are in love with this woman. i don't know what to tell you...and that's probably the best advice. lol! from what it appears to be, maybe you should make plans to head back home. seems you have many important people there. being a realist, if this relationship fails, at least you have family/friends there. LA is too expensive. the only thing that sux is you will leave your career. do you have any close and trustworthy co-workers who could possibly hook you up to a job in a similar field in FL?? sometimes that happens. look around for a job out there and when you find something, move back. if that doesn't work, move back with you folks until you can find a job and afford your own place (unless you two lovebirds move in together??). I'd say...GO FOR IT!
Author UCFKevin Posted January 31, 2005 Author Posted January 31, 2005 Well, they aren't fighting, per se, but they both like me and are kinda...vying for my time and attention. Which has never happened before. Which is kinda cool.
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