Stone Posted January 9, 2005 Posted January 9, 2005 Originally posted by UCFKevin Hollywood will always be here, ready and waiting for me to come back. She won't. I wouldn't be so sure about that Kev, you haven't been in La very long and already have had some good jobs, it's all about being in the right place at the right time... So what if you go back in 2 years and you haven't "worked in your feild" how does that look? I think you are on the right track now, and you are starting in a VERY VERY hard business.. I think your Nuts if you go back to FLA.. But that's just IMO. What if you and her don't work, what if she gets pregnant or something... you think you'll ever be able to go back to LA? Your young presue your dream... then when your famous I'm sure she'll be waiting for you I would hate to see you blow it..... sorry
whichwayisup Posted January 9, 2005 Posted January 9, 2005 Real proud of ya and happy for ya too!! Women drop their lives for men ALL THE TIME...So, why can't a guy do the same thing if he really wants to! Just go with your gut on this one! Good luck and definately keep letting us know how it is going!
magda Posted January 9, 2005 Posted January 9, 2005 Hey, good luck, Kevin. I'm in the "don't do it just for some girl" school of thinking, but all the same if you really want to do it, you're probably doing the right thing. There's lessons some people have to learn whether they come out good or bad, that's what life's about! Over and over again in my life I've avoided doing things I've wanted (or did them anyway and felt guilty about them) and for what? I've finally loosened up a little ; even though I might have once considered where I am now "failing" I realize that I'm happier than ever. If you were to stay in LA right now your heart isn't in it. Maybe in a month or 2 some things could turn around for the better and you'll forget all about her and your bad times there, maybe not. Life might be too short to wait around for things to change by themselves sometimes. I think you're over-romanticizing your relationship with her, but oh well. (If you think about it generally, all people meet by chance. That you both are still interested can be chalked up to unfinished business. Some people just have chemistry.) But can't fault you one bit for being a romantic, as long as you're an objective romantic.
ziggue Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 I say hang out with her for a while back in Florida. See how things go and then decide if you want to stay or not. If you want go back to Hollywood she can always visit you and vice verser you guys can keep in touch by phone and Email. I guess that's easier said then done but it's still a suggestion. Maybe when she comes and visits she might wanna move in with you over there.
Author UCFKevin Posted January 17, 2005 Author Posted January 17, 2005 Well, I'm back in Florida, tried to do the surprise thing but she wasn't home so I left a rose on her door and a note that said, "I'm back. Give me a call." She calls me a few hours later, thanks me for the flowers, and we talk for a bit and then she tells me that her best friend died a few days ago and she had also gotten fired that day. I told her that I'm here for her whenever she needs me, which is all I can do, I s'pose.
Merin Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 Hope it all works out the way you want it to Kevin.
yellow yota Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 hey i commend you for being brave enough to risk every thing on this girl she must be great i wish you the bestest of luck
Author UCFKevin Posted January 17, 2005 Author Posted January 17, 2005 She is great. But what do I do? Do I just wait for her to be ready to call me, or should I call her or drop off a condolescences card? Never been in a situation like this.
Barby Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 Yes send her a condolence card. Express to her in it how sorry you are and that you'll be there for her. Then I think I'd wait for her to contact you....I'm sure her losing someone close to her must be hard and being fired on top of that! OMG talk about bad timing!
Naive Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 Personally, I think you should call her and make sure she is ok. She probably needs someone to talk to seeing that her best friend passed away. A condolence card is too formal. You two know each other better than that!!! Give her a call and ask if there is anything you can do for her. By the way, maybe you should change your location
Author UCFKevin Posted January 17, 2005 Author Posted January 17, 2005 I tried calling her today but she didn't pick up, ditto for yesterday, so I guess I'll just send her a card. You'd think she'd want someone around to talk to or cry on, no? I dunno. I just wish she'd call so I could come to the rescue.
Barby Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 Since you tried calling two days in a row, I say go ahead and send the card, yes I would seriously think you would want someone to be there for you....but some people would rather be alone I guess?!
Stone Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 Humm maby sympothy flowers sent to her may work better... If you don't here from her after that then something is wrong.
Barby Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 Originally posted by Stone Humm maby sympothy flowers sent to her may work better... If you don't here from her after that then something is wrong. I agree, lets hope after him coming all the way back that this isn't some lame way she is trying to blow him off (not that this is the case by any means) but that would be just awful!
hooghie Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 Originally posted by UCFKevin I tried calling her today but she didn't pick up, ditto for yesterday, so I guess I'll just send her a card. You'd think she'd want someone around to talk to or cry on, no? I dunno. I just wish she'd call so I could come to the rescue. Did you leave a message or does she have caller id? Sounds like she is going through a bad time and people have different ways of dealing with grief. I would send her a card, wait a few days, and then call again and leave a message if she doesn't answer. Give her some time. BTW- I think it's SO romantic that you moved back to Florida. I hope this works out for you
moimeme Posted January 18, 2005 Posted January 18, 2005 Maybe she's staying with relatives or friends. I wouldn't send her flowers. Stick with the card.
Author UCFKevin Posted January 18, 2005 Author Posted January 18, 2005 I did the card thing. I'll leave it at that. If I don't hear from her any time soon, I'll know what's what.
Author UCFKevin Posted January 18, 2005 Author Posted January 18, 2005 In time, yes. Summertime, probably.
Author UCFKevin Posted January 20, 2005 Author Posted January 20, 2005 Well, it's Thursday. I dropped the card off on Sunday, I believe, saying my condolescences and that I'd be there for her when she needed me. I haven't heard from her since last Friday. I guess that's that.
whichwayisup Posted January 20, 2005 Posted January 20, 2005 Well, it's Thursday. I dropped the card off on Sunday, I believe, saying my condolescences and that I'd be there for her when she needed me. I haven't heard from her since last Friday. I guess that's that. Hey!! Don't be thinking like that Kevin!!! I will slap you! Come on babe. She's been through HELL and back. She knows you more or less moved back for HER...She ain't gonna ignore you now. She's got tons of emotions on her plate, she knows you're there...Just give her some time...Please don't put a time limit on it. My motto..Never rush a good thing. She WILL call you! Don't worry!!
Author UCFKevin Posted January 20, 2005 Author Posted January 20, 2005 Well, don't you think she'd have called by now? I mean, honestly, there's no reason for her not to have, if even just for two seconds to say how she's doing, which I'm genuinely wanting to know. I dunno. It ain't looking good, I feel, bad feeling about it. Others feel the same way, sadly. If she calls, cool, if not, well....life must go on.
Merin Posted January 20, 2005 Posted January 20, 2005 Sorry to hear that Kevin.. While Yes, I can understand she's got a lot going on in her life right now.. honestly.. Yes I do think she should've called by now.. even if it was to say she got the card.. that she's got some things going on right now.. BUT that she will get with you in a bit.. Does she know she was a big factor in your moving back Kevin?
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