bestofbothworlds Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Hi, First of all I'm new to the forum, so if I'm doing something I shouldn't please let me know so I can fix it. I need everyone's help. I recently broke it off with my ex of 1.5 years because she was blatantly lying to me about things. During this period when we were still together I (unwisely) looked at her Reddit posts and she anonymously told people that if I'd lost my memory, she would use it as a reason to break up with me and tell me we'd never dated. That was the last straw for me. Without going into too many other details, she's now continuing to post on Reddit, saying that she broke up with me and making up reasons that we broke up. She claims I was super insecure about things like her sexual history and that she had to keep soothing my fears about it and such. She even claimed she couldn't bring things up with her friends because of it. All of this is a lie - we were long distance almost the entire time and although I did express concern about her sexual history ONCE (the ordeal lasted a whole 10 minutes and never occurred again), she's continuing to bring it up over and over again online. I KNOW I shouldn't continue to check her Reddit posts, but I can't help the feeling of continuous betrayal. I know she's clinically depressed. Is this her way of coping? I don't understand why she keeps lying about the whole situation... Do you guys have any advice for me about what's going on? Thanks for taking your time out to read this, I appreciate it.
Inviv_girl Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 I dont understand. So who broke up with who? Did u dumped her because you saw what she posted ? did you confronted her about what you saw? or did she posted all that after the break up?
Author bestofbothworlds Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 Sorry for not being clear. I broke up with her. I broke up with her for a number of reasons. One of the most major reasons is that she would rather blatantly lie to me about what she was doing rather than tell me the truth or even invite me to join her in her activities. While we were still going out, after I noticed she was lying to me, I took a look at Reddit because I wanted to know if she was lying about anything else to me. That's when I saw the post about my losing my memory. After the break up, foolishly I keep checking Reddit from time to time. She keeps claiming she broke up with me, and she keeps saying that the main reasons have to deal with my insecurity. This is false! Nothing of the sort ever came up! She kept saying I was jealous of her friends -- I never met her friends because we were almost always long distance! I don't understand why she keeps lying about the situation. I broke up with her because her self-absorption due to depression started really hurting me, and now she lies to strangers. I did nothing to her to deserve it and it hurts. I have not confronted her about Reddit because I'd come off as a stalker.
Confusedguy81 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Sorry for not being clear. I broke up with her. I broke up with her for a number of reasons. One of the most major reasons is that she would rather blatantly lie to me about what she was doing rather than tell me the truth or even invite me to join her in her activities. While we were still going out, after I noticed she was lying to me, I took a look at Reddit because I wanted to know if she was lying about anything else to me. That's when I saw the post about my losing my memory. After the break up, foolishly I keep checking Reddit from time to time. She keeps claiming she broke up with me, and she keeps saying that the main reasons have to deal with my insecurity. This is false! Nothing of the sort ever came up! She kept saying I was jealous of her friends -- I never met her friends because we were almost always long distance! I don't understand why she keeps lying about the situation. I broke up with her because her self-absorption due to depression started really hurting me, and now she lies to strangers. I did nothing to her to deserve it and it hurts. I have not confronted her about Reddit because I'd come off as a stalker. The problem with the internet is a lot of idiots have access to it. I would just ignore it and act like she doesn't exist. You can't control what she says. Just be glad you didn't do a sex video with her.
Author bestofbothworlds Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 The problem with the internet is a lot of idiots have access to it. I would just ignore it and act like she doesn't exist. You can't control what she says. Just be glad you didn't do a sex video with her. I just don't understand why she would lie about the situation, especially now. It's already over. She's not even lying to our mutual friends -- just to random people anonymously. I don't get it.
Confusedguy81 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 I just don't understand why she would lie about the situation, especially now. It's already over. She's not even lying to our mutual friends -- just to random people anonymously. I don't get it. The only thing you could do is take the high road. Getting angry over something you can't control is not conducive to your personal growth.
strive Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 The better question would be, why are you so affected by it if it's just some random people and done anonymously. Their opinion shouldn't even matter to you.
Author bestofbothworlds Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 The better question would be, why are you so affected by it if it's just some random people and done anonymously. Their opinion shouldn't even matter to you. It's not so much what others think of me as it is what she thinks of me. I gave her my trust, love, and care, and she turns around and lies about the situation. It makes me wonder if she actually believes everything she's saying. You're right confusedguy. It just sucks
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