aelvidge Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 My ex broke up with me 6 weeks ago. We had just come back from a holiday in Mexico for 2 weeks and it was totally out of the blue. We were completely fine on holiday, no arguments and got on really well. He was really upset when he broke up with me and it was like he didn't want to do it. He is very influenced by his friends and family around him (they didn't like me) and it was like they pushed him to do it. After that I would text him several times a day (mistake!) and I realized it was only pushing him away further. I eventually gave up and he text me a couple days later saying 'I never wanted to break up with you, it's not like I didn't enjoy being with you, it was hard to make the decision and go through with it' we sent a couple texts and he said his decision was made and he was sticking by it even though he knew he would regret it :S We were together almost 2 years so it is really hard not talking to him..... i've been in no contact for a week now and haven't heard anything from him. I'm just worried he won't come to his senses and that will be it I wont hear anything more from him?
d0nnivain Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 I don't know. If he broke up with you under pressure from somebody else, maybe. But you don't know that for sure; you are assuming that from what you think. I'd give it some time & call him, not text. Do not do it repeatedly.
theonlyjuan Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 My ex was kinda similar. When she broke up with me she was in tears for ages and it seemed like she had a real hard time doing it. When I saw her last week it still felt like she feels something for me and acted a bit strange. I would say to just concentrate on recovering from it, work on getting over him. If he really wants you back at some point he will come back but you can't sit around hoping. You need to start moving on and if he comes back, deal with it when the time comes. I originally felt the need to hope for the best but I decided the move on. My ex has contacted me quite a few times since. My decision to move on was the best thing I could have done. I have a different outlook on everything and am much happier than I ever was. He really shouldn't be sending you mixed signals by saying that. It's giving you hope and it might be false hope. 1
cavalier99 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Nope he isnt coming back. The things he said are typical of dumpers. Of course it is a difficult decision for them. But they made it. They are generslly relieved after doing the deed. Dont read into anything they say about maybe in the future, or they will reget it, or that they didnt want to. It is all pure BS. He borke up with you. He wont change his mind and it is time for pure NC. It is tough but you can do it. Stop stringing yourself along. Erase everything go NC abd start to heal. Cav 1
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