ByMyself01 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 It seems that I am moving on faster than I thought it has been exactly 8 days since the Break-up and I'm way better than I am since Day 1. I don't know if it is the NC/LC or what, but I feel better. However, my feelings are not completely gone. I have been reading thread here and some people are still torn after months and even years. I am kind of second-guessing on if I even loved him since I seem to be getting over him so fast. I stopped crying out of the blue and I unblocked him from Facebook. Now I can see his name pop up on groups we belong to and it doesn't make me feel bad anymore. I still would love to speak with him, but if I never do, I wont die like I felt like I would. The only thing that bothers me is the way he did everything cold-blooded, that's something I will never forget and I will never allow him to hurt me like he did before. I already started to get connected with this new love interest. We already have a connection going on and we are planning a date next week. I was just wondering, is it normal for me to be making progress this fast? I mean I still think of him, but I went from extremely broken and hurt on Day 1 to almost nothing on day 8.
odin673 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 It's the roller coaster. Everything will feel great one day and ****ty the next. I wouldn't rush into another relationship if I were you. 1
Author ByMyself01 Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 Will be a rollercoaster most likely SIGH... I figured, but I will still try my best to be strong. And as far as starting a new relationship, I still want to see what this new guy is about atleast. Don't want to put my life on hold for an ex who clearly doesn't give a damn about me and left cold-blooded without a word of goodbye. The bad news about it is that he weren't even on bad terms. He just grew very quiet a few hours before his way out and slipped out of the door. How careless.
napy666 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 I felt that way with my ex from 2007 I felt amazing afterwards then it hit me I felt horrid when I got my new boyfriend in 2008. Then when me and that boyfriend broke up in 2011 I felt horrid for a long time to this day being single for 2 years it still gets to me at times.
melell Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 I was the same until the end of week 2. I can remember posting a thread in that time being all "why is this not bothering me, why am I not sad". If you have spent a decent amount of time with this person then it will hit you at some point. Our brains are just wired that way.
Author ByMyself01 Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 (edited) OMG!!! So I went to his GF's Instagram page and I seen a picture of the same breakfast he used to make me. I cried again for a while so obviously the feelings are pretty much still there and YES I felt horrible, it messed up my whole day. I know people say to stay off of their social media pages, but for some strange reason, seeing things like that helps me to come back to reality and realize that it's really over and he's not coming back. I don't know, maybe I'm weird, but I'm the type of person who needs to see the facts in order to move on. When I first see the facts, yes, it hurts but then I immediately start to process it very well and move on because I see everything for what it is. Edited November 24, 2013 by ByMyself01
forgetmenot75 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Don't break no contact. Don't sneak his Instagram. I remember being do happy after my "breakup" I posted here and I didn't even remembered which day no contact it was. I thought I was completely over him. It was day 5 no contact. It's been 6 months (I broke no contact after 4 months, si we'll say its been 2 months no contact) and I'm still grieving. Some days I want to desperately contact him. Some others are better. This is a rollercoaster. You'll be "relatively fine" after 8 weeks or more of strict no contact. Hang in there.
Author ByMyself01 Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 It's been 10 days since the Break-up and I just remembered that before he left, I was the one to tell him that we should cut off all contact. Although I said it, I really didn't mean it. I only said it out of resentment. Seems to me this relationship he left me to go fix isn't doing too well but I could be wrong. As I said before, they both didn't even add one another on Facebook or add a new relationship status of being together and they have a child. I remember my ex left to go visit his children in August and his child's mother tried to initiate a relationship with him while he was still with me and she confessed to him that our relationship status on Facebook hurt her. He still has our relationship status on his wall and never removed it, so it's weird to me that if they are really back together and serious, then they would have atleast added eachother back to Facebook. They both love Facebook from what I've come to understand. Also, the day I suggested NC (and I have suggested a few days before his leave), he sent me a message at the bus terminal telling me to check my door, but I ignored the message. My brother told me that when I ignored the message, it signified to him that I didn't want to be bothered and it may have hurt him. My brother claims it was his way of trying to initiate something with me. I'm asking, should I never contact him and wonder if he's just not really talking to me because I said for him not to although he did contact me about his belongings and he was very respectful. Or... should I contact him (but not yet or soon) since I was the initiator. He is a very sensitive person and gets hurt quickly like I do. That was one of the causes of our breakup because he claims I was always hurting him by denying his love for me. Please help! I don't know what to do. I just don't want him to feel like I never wanted him and want to get rid of him completely. He was like a bestfriend to me and I never wanted to lose that.
Author ByMyself01 Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 Don't break no contact. Don't sneak his Instagram. I remember being do happy after my "breakup" I posted here and I didn't even remembered which day no contact it was. I thought I was completely over him. It was day 5 no contact. It's been 6 months (I broke no contact after 4 months, si we'll say its been 2 months no contact) and I'm still grieving. Some days I want to desperately contact him. Some others are better. This is a rollercoaster. You'll be "relatively fine" after 8 weeks or more of strict no contact. Hang in there. I'm a weird and very different person, I seem to thrive off pain. If I get hurt from seeing something on his/her Instagram, I immediately build up a defense and begin to move on. In other words, it makes me stronger and see something for what it is as I stated above in the other post. I guess you can say I'm sort of an emotional pain-freak. I want the pain, so I can let it out then let it go. If I never know, I will keep wondering. If I see something and I know, it's even better for me in the long-run. Everyone is not the same sweetheart. I know, I'm backwards.
Author ByMyself01 Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 Everyday I think about it, I get overwhelmed. I am angry to be honest. Angry at the fact that he can do the things he did and not apologize. He did a lot of things that I failed to disclose on this thread and any sane person with a conscience would atleast apologize. I am 10 seconds away from sending him an email to tell him to hurry and send for his sh*t so all of him can be out of my house or I will take matters into my own hands and send it to the dumpster. I blocked him on Facebook last night and this time, he will stay on block. I'm making this thread to get insight on if I should send this email or not. Because I am STILL angry and hurt that he refuses to address what he did. It pisses me off more everyday. So should I send the angry email or just send his sh*t to the trash?
fixing Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Look, dont send him anything. ALL YOUR DOING BY SENDING HIM MESSAGES, is making him feel desired, sought after, loved and he will be relishing every moment of it. The best way to get under someones skin is to be completely silent and off the radar. Dont send him another friend request, text, letter. You know full well, you are just inflicting self rejection onto yourself. He's a user, and a cheater of people, the worst kind of scum going. If he has valuable stuff there, mail it to him but dont say a word in the mail. If its just junk, go and have a bonfire with it, and roast some sausages and burgers.
Author ByMyself01 Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 I just sent the email, here is what it said: "You have 3 more days to send for your things, or I'm taking it all out to the dumpster. You better tell family, friends, or whoever to help you out"
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