OpheliaSong Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Help! My dad just called me and wants me to go out with one of his employees this weekend. I love my dad. I am his little Opie and he is a great guy. He is the best person I know. My mom agrees with him so she is of no help. However, his tastes and mine are not the same on anything. I tried to tell him no but he said I need to get back on the horse (I just broke up with my bf for acting possessive, mean and jealous.) What should I do? I don't want to be mean but my dad's idea of cute is Matthew Broderick....
Confusedguy81 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Help! My dad just called me and wants me to go out with one of his employees this weekend. I love my dad. I am his little Opie and he is a great guy. He is the best person I know. My mom agrees with him so she is of no help. However, his tastes and mine are not the same on anything. I tried to tell him no but he said I need to get back on the horse (I just broke up with my bf for acting possessive, mean and jealous.) What should I do? I don't want to be mean but my dad's idea of cute is Matthew Broderick.... matthew broderick sooo sexay:laugh: Just tell him to mind his own business or take the gentler approach and say you are not ready. How old are you?
DrSimple Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Well either: A: Take a stand and say no. Don't do it and make him understand that he should accept your boundaries B: Humour him and go on the date. Just think of it as a night out to have fun, don't bring expectations. If you feel like it, be up front with the guy at the start and tell him as much.
Author OpheliaSong Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 Well, How did the date go? Was he nice or something? Is it a yay or a nay? sorry, I just got curious If you really don't like the employee, then tell your dad that, you need more time alone. We haven't went yet. It is for tomorrow night. Well either: A: Take a stand and say no. Don't do it and make him understand that he should accept your boundaries B: Humour him and go on the date. Just think of it as a night out to have fun, don't bring expectations. If you feel like it, be up front with the guy at the start and tell him as much. I could go and let him know my dad is trying to butti into my lovelife. That is true. But, would the guy think I was a jerk if I wasted his time? I really am not a mean person. matthew broderick sooo sexay:laugh: Just tell him to mind his own business or take the gentler approach and say you are not ready. How old are you? My dad is so sweet and he does so much for me, I feel like I should at least go so he will be happy. I am 23 and am usually very independent. I am at university and live in my own place. I think I would be ready if I met the right guy. My ex made it very easy for me to end it so I really don't feel bad or have any residual feelings for him. Would you be mad if you were set up with a girl who is nice and cute but she told you she is just humoring her dad?
Kizza Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 (edited) I think go on the date... You could make a friend or have a nice night out at the very least plus appease your dad for the time being. I do not suggest at ALL to stipulate the situation regarding the set-up with your dad etc... it is likely he already knows this or has a fair idea and bringing it to the forefront of conversation would be negative and could make him feel inadequate and uncomfortable. After the date I do suggest having a dinner date or meeting with dad and telling him that you love him and understand he cares for you, you appreciate his efforts, however, you will be ok and being set up on dates with his employees doesn't quite work for you. It is an awful amount of pressure really and can cause awkwardness with him being your dads employee, it is very close to home... Edited November 23, 2013 by Kizza
Author OpheliaSong Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 I think go on the date... You could make a friend or have a nice night out at the very least plus appease your dad for the time being. I do not suggest at ALL to stipulate the situation regarding the set-up with your dad etc... it is likely he already knows this or has a fair idea and bringing it to the forefront of conversation would be negative and could make him feel inadequate and uncomfortable. After the date I do suggest having a dinner date or meeting with dad and telling him that you love him and understand he cares for you, you appreciate his efforts, however, you will be ok and being set up on dates with his employees doesn't quite work for you. My fear is that my dad thinks every guy under the age of forty is young. What if this guy is Matthew Broderick today and not during Ferris Bueller days? I asked him but he said he is a young guy, which could mean anyone to my dad. I don't feel comfortable with someone really older than me.
Kizza Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Because the date is already set up you have 2 options... ditch it or go what ever you choose I think you must communicate to your dad in the nicest way possible how you feel, otherwise you may be faced with this same problem again. You could even perhaps approach him before the date, tell him you are not going and why. I am not sure your personality or the relationship with your dad that you harbour, me personally I would just do the date and then follow up with dad after but in your case if you really do feel uncomfortable with the whole arrangement then talk to dad soon... 1
Confusedguy81 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Its better than being setup by your coworkers. My coworkers tried to set me up with 35 year old crazy lady and 21 year old kid. 1
NoLeafClover Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Help! My dad just called me and wants me to go out with one of his employees this weekend. I love my dad. I am his little Opie and he is a great guy. He is the best person I know. My mom agrees with him so she is of no help. However, his tastes and mine are not the same on anything. I tried to tell him no but he said I need to get back on the horse (I just broke up with my bf for acting possessive, mean and jealous.) What should I do? I don't want to be mean but my dad's idea of cute is Matthew Broderick.... Save a horse, Ride a cowboy
Author OpheliaSong Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 I went on the date. My dad promised me if I wasn't happy with B that I could call him and he would come get me out of it without making me hurt B's feelings. B was gorgeous. No, he was beautiful. B looked like Shemar Moore from Criminal Minds. We laughed and talked. He is 26, is still going to school while working for my dad and getting his Masters in Accounting. He smelled so good. My poppy did well. Yay for Poppy. He got a big kiss, and so did B. 1
carhill Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Considering you had a boyfriend a little over a week ago, I'd say making or entertaining new introductions is a bit premature. 1
Author OpheliaSong Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 Considering you had a boyfriend a little over a week ago, I'd say making or entertaining new introductions is a bit premature. I am 23 years old and I don't sit around and pine over jerks. It was fun and that is exactly what I needed. Since my dad set it up, B knew exactly what my situation is and is happy with just dating casually. Why you want to rain on my happy day?
d0nnivain Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Go out of respect for your dad but pick a short date -- one drink or a cup of coffee. You are in essence agreeing to give up 1 hour of your life to be polite. Nothing more. Nothing less. Be kind to the employee. If you are pleasantly surprised, great. If the guy isn't your taste, at the end of the hour thank him for the drink & his time but let him down gently & in such a way that it won't be weird if you come to your dad's work. Remember this guy might not like you either but because your dad signs his paycheck he may have felt like he didn't have a choice & had to meet with you.
carhill Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I am 23 years old and I don't sit around and pine over jerks. It was fun and that is exactly what I needed. Since my dad set it up, B knew exactly what my situation is and is happy with just dating casually. Why you want to rain on my happy day? Young lady, if you think my polite reminder of your postings here is raining on your happy day, boy does life have a lot in store for you. At 23, it certainly does. Good luck. 1
StanMusial Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 All's well that ends well. Look at it this way, he better not act up or your old man will put the beat down on him. 1
Author OpheliaSong Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 Young lady, if you think my polite reminder of your postings here is raining on your happy day, boy does life have a lot in store for you. At 23, it certainly does. Good luck. I am 23, so my memory is good. I know what I posted and what happened with jerk ex. Uh, thanks. Wow, that is pessimistic. I am sure life has a lot in store for all of us, and I am optimistically looking forward to it. I was sharing something actually fun and happy, that is all.
Author OpheliaSong Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 All's well that ends well. Look at it this way, he better not act up or your old man will put the beat down on him. yeah I can totally see Poppy doing that. For real.
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