ponchsox Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 (edited) My biggest regret was not sticking with my gut when I dumped her instead of letting feelings get in he way and get back together. I became a lot more emotionally invested and ended up getting hurt. I'm never jeopardizing my own happiness for someone else again. After we broke up, we talked on the phone and she said some things that pissed me off and I said some nasty things in return. Nothing good ever comes from contact immediately following a breakup. Edited November 24, 2013 by ponchsox 1
me85 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 My ex left me saying he was too busy for a relationship then and that's why he wouldnt ever call or text me back anymore. I believed him so I continued sticking around because I believed he would be mine again as soon as he wasn't busy. Then I began begging everyday with 20 texts a day asking for him to please respond and come back because my heart was hurting so bad missing him. He then started msging me 2 months later and I thought things would get back to normal but he just wanted sex. so I went NC for 1 month. When I texted him finally....he told me he was engaged and sent me promiscuous pics of his fiance...I DIED and beggedddddd him like a maniac for about 10 days. Then went NC again. Basically I hate that I believed him and stuck around and then thought begging would be alright to do because he used to do it all the time to me. but boy can I beg I begged too & I was rejected too. All the while he's in another relationship not telling me. Screw him, he's one of the worst things that's ever happened to me. 1
Hurtandangry44 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I found out he had another girlfriend the entire time we were together. So, I posted on cheaterville about him and then told him. It's cost me one friendship already. I'm still trying to decide if I should remove the post, or if I regret making it (and telling him).
Rachelmcandrew Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Wow @ you guys' stories! I have a few myself but mostly they are from older exes where I was quite young at the time of the relationship (15 - 17, and then 21) I like to use that as an excuse . The first guy dumped me for what now seem like logical and practical reasons (distance etc). He was my first love and I had never felt pain like it so I stayed in his life as a 'friend' and we talked every single day for hours and he got a new gf. I stayed around while he was with said gf talking to him online and he would tell me about her (and, I later found out, tell her about me!). I also sent him numerous gifts over the years including a birthday present and a handmade bday card. *facepalm*. I was so in love with him and he knew it. But he was a good guy at heart and I'm still friends with him 10 years later, he's actually a successful music producer now who's quite well-known within the industry! And I'm very happy for him. The second guy had an ex girlfriend who he was still in love with and was on a study abroad program in Paris when he and I were hooking up. This guy was actually a sweet guy. He was very honest with me about not wanting a relationship because of B (his ex gf) but I thought I could change him. Our 'relationship' went on for about 6 months and then I ended it because he couldn't give me what I wanted. I was really upset and after we split I went back and told him I missed him - SUCH a cringe moment as he had already got back with his ex. The third guy has definitely been the deepest, darkest hurt of my life so far. I was so deeply in love with him that it was ridiculous and we split up twice due to his CP - he ran from me every time he felt like I was his gf for real and that everything was getting too serious. Anyway, after our first break up I managed to keep my pride somewhat, aside from sending him a text on Xmas day apologising to him for a fight we had had. After that I left him alone and didn't contact him any further. We got back together in January and when he dumped me again in April, I went on a huge rampage and signed him up for every single cosmetic surgery and gay sex toy catalogue I could find. He has a receding hairline and bad teeth and is insecure about these things so although it was dumb and seriously immature of me, it made me feel better and gave me the giggles in the short term. He also kept texting me after breaking up with me which made me really angry so I ended up calling him while drunk one night with the intention of cursing him out and asking him to please stop messaging, but he never answered. I think the more regrets I have from post-breakup, the more I loved the person.
deponie12 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 called him, he didn't answer.... I left him a voice mail wishing him and his NEW girlfriend luck and "bye". I wish I never called, him not picking up and never calling me back hurts more than anything.
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 I feel you. Stay strong next time called him, he didn't answer.... I left him a voice mail wishing him and his NEW girlfriend luck and "bye". I wish I never called, him not picking up and never calling me back hurts more than anything.
AngelicAria Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Called him right after the breakup, he said we maybe might date in the future. A week later he contacted me saying we won't ever get back together after I said we should stay friends for now. I felt like ****.
Never Again Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 If you look back.. Did you wish you just ignored every attempt she made after BU? YUP. I was disappointed at the breakup and said a little more than I should've (basically that I thought our problem was not seeing each other enough, made a self-depreciating joke, etc), but generally handled it okay. But after the breakup? I should've ignored everything. All I did was let her relieve her guilt and feel comfortable that I thought positively of her and wanted to be with her. Not only did I likely kill any chance of her coming around (not really the point), but I delayed my healing. I let her reopen wounds over and over again. And just when I finally making some real progress in healing? She came rapping at the door. When I opened it just to see what she wanted, she immediately turned the other way again. 1
chris21422 Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 wow man. Maybe I will learn from your experience should start ignoring all the attempts of contacting us. YUP. I was disappointed at the breakup and said a little more than I should've (basically that I thought our problem was not seeing each other enough, made a self-depreciating joke, etc), but generally handled it okay. But after the breakup? I should've ignored everything. All I did was let her relieve her guilt and feel comfortable that I thought positively of her and wanted to be with her. Not only did I likely kill any chance of her coming around (not really the point), but I delayed my healing. I let her reopen wounds over and over again. And just when I finally making some real progress in healing? She came rapping at the door. When I opened it just to see what she wanted, she immediately turned the other way again.
Blastbeat Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 I said I missed her once two days after being dumped. She said "don't be sad, no hard feelings right? hope you're ok". I said "Of course I'm sad. Not going to be annoying about it though, could tell you were getting sick of me over last month so not too much shock here." A month of NC. Then I messaged her saying "I accept my part of the break up, working on my self so I don't make the same mistakes in the future. I think you're awesome and I hope you find someone that makes you happy". That was a week ago and no reply. I give up. Not sure how I feel about my messages but continuing NC to move on now.
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