JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 have you ever done something stup*d after break up? how do you feel now about it now? Did you regret it? share some stories guys... I will share some. My friend bought her ex girlfriend chocolates and flowers after a month of breaking up.. He didn't hear anything from her after that.
aaron11892 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Yeah I wrote a 5 page letter to her telling her about all the good times we shared. It didn't do me any good at all and probably pushed her further away. Regret sending that so much!
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 That's ok man. maybe she will read that when she miss you. Yeah I wrote a 5 page letter to her telling her about all the good times we shared. It didn't do me any good at all and probably pushed her further away. Regret sending that so much!
The_Face Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 I regret breaking it off with my exgf and almost immediately trying to get us back together and work things out. I should have stuck with the feelings that drove me to break up with her in the first place, and not given in to the feelings of loneliness that followed. I practically begged her to give us another shot. At that point, she was holding all the cards and all I was doing was looking like a desperate punk. Never again!!
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 Did she contacts you again after no contact? I regret breaking it off with my exgf and almost immediately trying to get us back together and work things out. I should have stuck with the feelings that drove me to break up with her in the first place, and not given in to the feelings of loneliness that followed. I practically begged her to give us another shot. At that point, she was holding all the cards and all I was doing was looking like a desperate punk. Never again!!
me85 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 (edited) Well, for starters, I let my ex string me along for nearly 5 months to see if we could "work it out while not together" da ****?!!!!! Allowed him to manipulate me and play head games with me. Sent him 2 long heartfelt emails, he read but never wrote back saying to the 1st, "I will write you a proper email back" never did & to the 2nd one pouring my heart out to him..."it was very nice" DA ****?!!!! Slept with him a week & a 1/2 after officially ending it. (AND I WENT TO HIS HOUSE!) DA ****?!!!! I've never been rejected by any guy. I'm 28. I chased after my ex, first time I ever chased a guy...NEVER AGAIN. (He chased me in the beginning to get me & boy was he persistent & I ended up chasing him in the end to get him back. DA ****?!) I made a complete fool of myself and I feel so pathetic for fighting so hard to keep someone in my life because I really love him. I was so very forgiving of all the hurt and tears he caused me but then he wrote me off just like that, for no reason other than him "being confused about how he feels about me" ... DA ****?!!! Ya, my gut tells me he is sleeping with someone else & is torn between me and them. But today I finally blocked him on my phone and I'm not looking back, I promise. I'm falling off the face of the Earth and if I never see him again, that will be OK. Edited November 22, 2013 by me85 4
chris21422 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 wow you been through a lot.. Me after break up I'm just gone in the face of the earth and i caved I wanted to fight for her but what can I do? I realize you just push them away doing it.. Well, for starters, I let my ex string me along for nearly 5 months to see if we could "work it out while not together" da ****?!!!!! Allowed him to manipulate me and play head games with me. Sent him 2 long heartfelt emails, he read but never wrote back saying to the 1st, "I will write you a proper email back" never did & to the 2nd one pouring my heart out to him..."it was very nice" DA ****?!!!! Slept with him a week & a 1/2 after officially ending it. (AND I WENT TO HIS HOUSE!) DA ****?!!!! I've never been rejected by any guy. I'm 28. I chased after my ex, first time I ever chased a guy...NEVER AGAIN. (He chased me in the beginning to get me & boy was he persistent & I ended up chasing him in the end to get him back. DA ****?!) I made a complete fool of myself and I feel so pathetic for fighting so hard to keep someone in my life because I really love him. I was so very forgiving of all the hurt and tears he caused me but then he wrote me off just like that, for no reason other than him "being confused about how he feels about me" ... DA ****?!!! Ya, my gut tells me he is sleeping with someone else & is torn between me and them. But today I finally blocked him on my phone and I'm not looking back, I promise. I'm falling off the face of the Earth and if I never see him again, that will be OK. 1
me85 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 wow you been through a lot.. Me after break up I'm just gone in the face of the earth and i caved I wanted to fight for her but what can I do? I realize you just push them away doing it.. Yes I did and I wasted a whole lot of true love and dedication on someone who has absolutely NO IDEA what love really is OR how to make a RS work. But I'm not a victim. I learned a lot. Mostly not to ever date anyone who KNOWS they're good looking and acts better than people & thinks money is everything & is so materialistic. He is so arrogant and cruel. He was abusive in EVERY way. I was totally controlled by this person for so long. I am seeking counseling for the things he's done to me and for life in general but boy did he mess me up. He has never even been truly remorseful for hurting me all the ways he has. I'm walking tall and never looking back. 1
freebird31 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 After about a month and a half after we broke up I told him it was really hard for me to cope with it all because he was my first relationship , I never begged I just told him it was hard for me. Which I regret. He was such a jerk and pretty much told me "what do u want from me" I never replied after that. I'm not taking the victim role but he was pretty selfish. After that I was ready to move on and he continuously tried to keep contact with me. So the worse I've done was reply back but only to tell him I needed my space. This cycle happened 3 or 4 times until he finally got the point. Haven't heard from him since. I didn't have the heart to ignore his messages. That's probably the one thing I need to work on. I made a lot of mistakes looking back, but overall he wasn't willing to give me what I needed and so it had to end one way or another. 1
greenfairie Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Messaging him numerous times until he would respond but he would never respond most of the time. That was my biggest mistake. I sent him a written letter, several e-mails, and much more for weeks…. He eventually sent a text saying, "Stalker!" That was like a knife in the heart and stomach for me but that text made me stop doing whatever I was trying to do to get his attention but it was clear he did not want to pay me any attention. He was usually a nice guy while we dated and during the relationship he would ALWAYS respond and if I didn't respond, he would blow up my phone as well. I guess I felt a sense of entitlement to constantly blow up his phone with ridiculous begging, pleading texts… But I guess I was wrong. He CHANGED into this like angry person towards me. 2
BC1980 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 I regret the fact that I ever even talked to him again. 1
BC1980 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Sent him 2 long heartfelt emails, he read but never wrote back saying to the 1st, "I will write you a proper email back" never did & to the 2nd one pouring my heart out to him..."it was very nice" DA ****?!!!! He responded to my heartfelt email by saying, "Thank you for those thoughts."
headinthecloud Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Breaking NC. It set me back both times.
haggard969 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 all i can tell you is what you should have done. you should have not taken what she said seriously and just kind of chuckled and be like okay SEE YUH, then you should go and hang out with a chick who is extremley hott, even if she is just a friend, go out with the new girl , even though your crushed inside. and if you see you ex, dont try and talk to her, just nod n fake smile. shell me sucking you wang dry 1
greenfairie Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 It's unlikely he changed. No one likes being begged or pleaded or having their phone blown up. If you're ever on the receiving end of it, you'll know exactly what I mean. You're right. I think I just fooled myself to have a sense of entitlement to do that to him. He did the exact same thing to me in the relationship and I remember that feeling. It just feels so easy to do it with a small ass phone attached to my hands but I have not done that in months. I feel accomplished by not feeling tempted to give in to my crazy obnoxious habit of compulsively messaging the ex. 3
greenfairie Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Silence speaks more than words ever could. :-) Exactly. He sent me a message a couple of months ago… I didn't even respond! Months ago, I would have done the total opposite. I've done a 180 since then. I say that to myself too every time I think about it… "Silence SAYS more than my words ever could" 3
Confusedguy81 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 This poor guy Man tries to woo back (TI)N(A) with hillside message
me85 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 He responded to my heartfelt email by saying, "Thank you for those thoughts." What a JERK!
melell Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 As much as it hurt I never let my ex in on anything I was going through. I was very much 'oh well, I'll be alright' when talking to him. He did come back..maybe that is why. After 8 years together it took me until about 4 months to not want him back. Even if I did all the wrong things, it wouldn't matter. As soon as you take them off the pedestal their opinion will mean nothing
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 Did you do No contact right after break up? As much as it hurt I never let my ex in on anything I was going through. I was very much 'oh well, I'll be alright' when talking to him. He did come back..maybe that is why. After 8 years together it took me until about 4 months to not want him back. Even if I did all the wrong things, it wouldn't matter. As soon as you take them off the pedestal their opinion will mean nothing
sarbunoemi Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 I replied to my ex' message on facebook after he broke up with me...and after a month a wished his mother "Happy Birthday" and asked him if he wants to hang out someday. Fortunately, I had to go to a Christian camp and didn't contact him. But after I arrived home and went to a wedding, he saw me and called me 2 days after the event. I replied. Biggest mistake ever. And about 1 month ago he text me, telling me he saw me on TV. After 9 hours i replied. Another mistake. It got annoying for me whenever he saw me, he text me or call me. So I blocked him on facebook. I felt overwhelmed by these unnecessary emotions of attachment. I ended it without telling him about it (it felt great). I finally feel free and don't feel bothered anymore. Next time, after a break up, I'll go totally NC.
Shaine Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Begged, pleaded, promised many things, did it for 2days. I got rejected. I told him to block me on his fb so that i wont be tempted to msg him. But i hounded him on wechat the next day. Rejected again. So i insulted him out of bitterness. So then he blocked me on wechat. Oh well. I dont care. He doesnt know what he's missing. And i dont really see a future with him anyway.
ariesgirl-328 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 My ex left me saying he was too busy for a relationship then and that's why he wouldnt ever call or text me back anymore. I believed him so I continued sticking around because I believed he would be mine again as soon as he wasn't busy. Then I began begging everyday with 20 texts a day asking for him to please respond and come back because my heart was hurting so bad missing him. He then started msging me 2 months later and I thought things would get back to normal but he just wanted sex. so I went NC for 1 month. When I texted him finally....he told me he was engaged and sent me promiscuous pics of his fiance...I DIED and beggedddddd him like a maniac for about 10 days. Then went NC again. Basically I hate that I believed him and stuck around and then thought begging would be alright to do because he used to do it all the time to me. but boy can I beg 1
Never Again Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 (edited) Agreed to meet with her 4-days after the breakup. Bad idea. Responded to a joking text are sent a week after that. Responded to her wishing me a happy 4th of July. Texted her the day of a really big event to wish her luck. Responded to a happy birthday text. Let me call me, crying, when she found out I knew about a guy she was chasing. Talk to her, let her hold my hand and accept her request for a dance at a wedding. This one...this one was me thinking she was trying to rekindle something. Dumb. Edit: believed her reasons for the breakup, which were your standard, wishy-washy "I don't know why I'm doing this or if it's the right thing, but something feels like it's missing" garbage. Took pity on her and was nice throughout the whole breakup process instead of just asking her politely to leave. Edited November 23, 2013 by Pfenixphire
Author JohnnyLoverBoy Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 If you look back.. Did you wish you just ignored every attempt she made after BU? Agreed to meet with her 4-days after the breakup. Bad idea. Responded to a joking text are sent a week after that. Responded to her wishing me a happy 4th of July. Texted her the day of a really big event to wish her luck. Responded to a happy birthday text. Let me call me, crying, when she found out I knew about a guy she was chasing. Talk to her, let her hold my hand and accept her request for a dance at a wedding. This one...this one was me thinking she was trying to rekindle something. Dumb. Edit: believed her reasons for the breakup, which were your standard, wishy-washy "I don't know why I'm doing this or if it's the right thing, but something feels like it's missing" garbage. Took pity on her and was nice throughout the whole breakup process instead of just asking her politely to leave.
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