sun1972 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Hi all anyone who reads these forums will know i ended my relationship 2 weeks ago because the ldr made her so unhappy, that i regretted not leaving my job, and that she is mixed about retrying anyway another twist, it looks like she is pregnant!!! She got a positive hpt im thrilled at the idea of being a dad, and WILL move to her now asap..i want to be near my child. Im just not sure how to broach us trying when im near to her??? id rather just move in with her than be a neighbour and dont want a broken family for my child We didnt have any real issues other than distance... thoughts? oh btw, there is zero chance im not the dad...absolutely zero 1
d0nnivain Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Well that is an ironic twist & maybe the kick in the a$$ you two needed. Congratulations. I hope it all works out. 1
Author sun1972 Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 Well that is an ironic twist & maybe the kick in the a$$ you two needed. Congratulations. I hope it all works out. Thanks mate apologies for all my blabbing etc this last two weeks im sure it will, ive always wanted to be a dad.. ill win her round im sure of it thanks for listening
Author sun1972 Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 update... shes doing a confirm test in the morning and we will discuss from there just stalked her fb, and she has hidden her 'single' status
Cream Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 lucky! i wish i had a baby with my ex, so she would stay with me.
BC1980 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 lucky! i wish i had a baby with my ex, so she would stay with me. Don't stay stuff like that. Damn. 4
Simon Phoenix Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 update... shes doing a confirm test in the morning and we will discuss from there just stalked her fb, and she has hidden her 'single' status I'm not sure that should be your primary reaction to it, but yeah, No Contact is definitely out of the question now. lucky! i wish i had a baby with my ex, so she would stay with me. I really hope you aren't serious with this post. If so, take 48 laps. 1
Sugarkane Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 lucky! i wish i had a baby with my ex, so she would stay with me. Be careful what you wish for! Just saying... 1
Simon Phoenix Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Agreed. Yikes... Yep, that's definitely one of the top five dumbest posts I've seen on LS since I've been around. The last thing a dysfunctional non-relationship needs is a child. Yeesh, I'm cringing. OP, I'm not referring to your situation FWIW, I'm referring to Cream's comment. 2
Confusedguy81 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Also, a baby doesn't fix everything and automatically mean "we will be together forever" type thing. Relationship still needs work. 3
NoLeafClover Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Question... Where do babies come from? 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 I have a HUGE fear the OP is taking this with WAY too much optimism. Having a kid is a very important step and I feel you are only using it as a tool to get back together. This doesnt mean that in the SLIGHEST. In fact, means there might even be more resentment from her end because now she has to have you in her life...no matter If she wanted it or not. Congrats on the possibility of being a father. That's really all that needs to be said here. 1
Author sun1972 Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 Yep, that's definitely one of the top five dumbest posts I've seen on LS since I've been around. The last thing a dysfunctional non-relationship needs is a child. Yeesh, I'm cringing. OP, I'm not referring to your situation FWIW, I'm referring to Cream's comment. its ok, and we were hardly dysfunctional, as ive bleated on for 2 weeks it was just distance now, obviously ill close that distance and yes i have always wanted to be a dad
Simon Phoenix Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 its ok, and we were hardly dysfunctional, as ive bleated on for 2 weeks it was just distance now, obviously ill close that distance and yes i have always wanted to be a dad Yeah, I wasn't calling your situation dysfunctional.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 its ok, and we were hardly dysfunctional, as ive bleated on for 2 weeks it was just distance now, obviously ill close that distance and yes i have always wanted to be a dad The fact remains that she did want to break up. Distance seems like a very small issue if you.really care about someone. Disfunctional or not.....I think there is more to it
Author sun1972 Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 (edited) The fact remains that she did want to break up. Distance seems like a very small issue if you.really care about someone. Disfunctional or not.....I think there is more to it I ended it - because i could see the ldr was making her unhappy.. and it is so so so easy to say 'distance is a small issue' until you actually have to give everything up.. Anyway i broke all the rules today and went to see her cos of the +ve...(8 hour round trip ) but her confirmation test was -ve and 4 more tests -ve too, so it is looking like a false alarm now It was a wierd day, we kept going to kiss then realised we shouldnt, we cuddled lots, i was offered a chance to stay the night, i declined because i knew where it would lead, we had a long proper kiss when i did go. Situation is weve agreed neither of us will date in the next few months Weve agreed that we are fab together and distance is our only issue We agreed we still loved each other We agreed the ball is in my court (leave my job) but that i need to step back for a bit and be sure of what im doing and that im running on pure emotion so ...still single, not sure if seeing her made it worse or not, proud of myself for not staying the night, and ball is in my court....it was her who said i should take a little time out to be sure i will have no regrets and make the decision to do it when calm...but that if i do it then she would be chuffed to try again .. Edited November 23, 2013 by sun1972
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