aaron11892 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 So she broke up with me 3 months ago and been 2.5 months no contact and I've really begun to feel so much better, not thinking about her too much and just generally getting back to my old self. How ever I was on instragram earlier and I see a mutual friend has started to follow my ex. She never had instagram before so she has made an account recently. Out of curiosity, I went to check her profile as I'm sure we ALL would, the temptation to resist would be too powerful. So I go on her profile and she only has a few pictures of herself and there's one picture that I took of her in my bedroom months ago. I wondered why she had uploaded that, maybe just because she likes the picture or she was trying to send a message out to me. Maybe she just liked it. Anyway I'm scrolling the the pictures and I accidentally 'liked' that photo by mistake!!! I quickly unliked it though but now I'm wondering whether she got a notification saying I liked it!! I didn't even mean to do it! I'm so disappointed with myself! I've been feeling great recently then I suddenly see her on instagram, liked that picture by mistake and my heart dropped. I've been feeling anxious all night. Please I just need the kind community of Loveshack to reassure me everything will be ok. I feel absolutely terrible for what I did and I hope to god she didn't get notified that I liked the picture. If she did she's probably thinking I'm still not over, which honestly I am not, and that she still holds all the power... help?
crazybestie101 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 So she broke up with me 3 months ago and been 2.5 months no contact and I've really begun to feel so much better, not thinking about her too much and just generally getting back to my old self. How ever I was on instragram earlier and I see a mutual friend has started to follow my ex. She never had instagram before so she has made an account recently. Out of curiosity, I went to check her profile as I'm sure we ALL would, the temptation to resist would be too powerful. So I go on her profile and she only has a few pictures of herself and there's one picture that I took of her in my bedroom months ago. I wondered why she had uploaded that, maybe just because she likes the picture or she was trying to send a message out to me. Maybe she just liked it. Anyway I'm scrolling the the pictures and I accidentally 'liked' that photo by mistake!!! I quickly unliked it though but now I'm wondering whether she got a notification saying I liked it!! I didn't even mean to do it! I'm so disappointed with myself! I've been feeling great recently then I suddenly see her on instagram, liked that picture by mistake and my heart dropped. I've been feeling anxious all night. Please I just need the kind community of Loveshack to reassure me everything will be ok. I feel absolutely terrible for what I did and I hope to god she didn't get notified that I liked the picture. If she did she's probably thinking I'm still not over, which honestly I am not, and that she still holds all the power... help? First of all relax. She probably don't know. once you like something on instagram and unlike back in seconds , other person don't know because it takes time for servers to process like 10 seconds or more. Sometime in my instagram i get notification after minute or so. And come on even if she get to know why you are worried? She can't control how you feel. And please stop over thinking about " why she uploaded that picture" My ex is on vacation right now . My friend told me that he has been wearing clothes that i gifted him. aren't dumpers try to get away from memories or gifts ??so that means he doesnt hate me or may be miss me. For mini second all these thoughts came up but honestly we don't know what's in their mind so there is no point of over exaggerating entire situation. Just sit back and relax. Stay on NC!
CaliBabe Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Omg that is the worst! Yes, she will get a notification and she will see that you no longer like the picture anymore. Lesson learned, try to stay away!
Author aaron11892 Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 Omg that is the worst! Yes, she will get a notification and she will see that you no longer like the picture anymore. Lesson learned, try to stay away! Seriously? :/ the first poster has said that it takes the server a bit of time to notify. I unliked the pic straight away though so hopefully she didn't get it?
CaliBabe Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Seriously? :/ the first poster has said that it takes the server a bit of time to notify. I unliked the pic straight away though so hopefully she didn't get it? I just know from experience. A friend of mine liked a photo on IG by accident. It was her ex's new girlfriend. She was mortified and started freaking out and unliked it immediately. Her ex ended up calling her asking why she liked the pic and that she was being a stalker. This kinda crap happens.
sun1972 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 im not sure why this matters if you dont intend to speak to her again?? whats the worst that can happen? she will see you liked a pic you took... it hardly makes you seem like stalker of the year after 10 weeks of no contact? unless your after reconciliation i would simply not worry wether she saw it or not just keep nc even if you are after reconciliation, who knows she may reactwell.
radiodarcy Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Of course everything will be ok - - regardless if she gets the notification or not (in all honesty I have no idea how that works with instagram). I accidentally sent my ex an invite to gchat (and this was after I deleted him ). Much to my relief he never said anything to me about it. Yes I was mortified but I just shook it off. Who cares what she thinks? It was an honest mistake, end of story. Just let it go and move on 1
crazybestie101 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Seriously? :/ the first poster has said that it takes the server a bit of time to notify. I unliked the pic straight away though so hopefully she didn't get it? I am an Engineering student , so i know.
NoLeafClover Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 U should really make a big deal and stress yourself out about whether ur ex will find out u checked her instagram... Meanwhile there are kids in Somalia with nothing to eat.
organizedchaos Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Maybe this will help explain it: Instagram Privacy Tips: Liking and Unliking | emilybinder.com
Author aaron11892 Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 im not sure why this matters if you dont intend to speak to her again?? whats the worst that can happen? she will see you liked a pic you took... it hardly makes you seem like stalker of the year after 10 weeks of no contact? unless your after reconciliation i would simply not worry wether she saw it or not just keep nc even if you are after reconciliation, who knows she may reactwell. At the back of my mind I am hoping for reconciliation but she would need to put so much damn effort in if I was to go back to her. I'm just worried that now she's gonna sense that I'm not over her and she feels she still holds all the cards and will push her back even further. I don't know
crazybestie101 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Maybe this will help explain it: Instagram Privacy Tips: Liking and Unliking | emilybinder.com lol , seriously people wrote such article ??
sun1972 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 At the back of my mind I am hoping for reconciliation but she would need to put so much damn effort in if I was to go back to her. I'm just worried that now she's gonna sense that I'm not over her and she feels she still holds all the cards and will push her back even further. I don't know i think compared to 10 weeks of not speaking ... liking a pic is nothing whatsoever seriously, dont stress over it
InnocentMan Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 You should probably go back and like it again, otherwise she will wonder why you 'unliked' it. Who knows what long term damage this could cause.
InnocentMan Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Actually, that's a bad idea, because then she might have two notifications, and only one like.
soccerrprp Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 There's nothing in the OP's post that suggests that this was an accident. Good grief.... You DELIBERATELY interacted with her instagram. You even admit how one could resist looking and your desire to reconcile.... Nice...
organizedchaos Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 lol , seriously people wrote such article ?? Haha, yep. For people like the OP.
organizedchaos Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 You should probably go back and like it again, otherwise she will wonder why you 'unliked' it. Who knows what long term damage this could cause. Haha, the scene in Swingers with Mike calling that girl back b/c his voicemail keeps getting cut off comes to mind.
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