High sex drive... and no attraction to hubby

[emotionlessbutalive]

You'll be surprised what a little sex deprivation does to the old libido. We are no longer together - lots of reasons but this was one.

 

So sex life does affect the marriage

[elbe]

So sex life does affect the marriage

 

ooooooh, yes..... Does hubby do the porn thing every night too? If so, maybe you guys could try this hobby together sometime? I would still lay off for a while first though and start scrumping regularly before you make that play.

[emotionlessbutalive]

ooooooh, yes..... Does hubby do the porn thing every night too? If so, maybe you guys could try this hobby together sometime? I would still lay off for a while first though and start scrumping regularly before you make that play.

 

I think sex is last on his list. he doesnt need that much.. We were long distance and even after not seeing for months he didnt jump on me..

[oldshirt]

You are right, but none of us want to separate. He wants to work on it but I am sick and tired to be one who is trying to do anything in this relationship. He cares about and and I do care about him. We are just not lovers and he needs to do something to make me attract to him and that includes his sex drive his career, his social life... He was better when I met him. My personality overpowers him and he gets insecure. he needs to be a man.

 

OK if you insist on trying to work this out and trying to fix him up like an old rusty '57 Chevy I'll refer you to book series and another site.

 

The book is called, "The Married Man Sexlife Primer" and I'm sure this site won't let me link another site so I'll just say that the site's name is the same as the book but without the 'Primer" word in it.

 

It truly is the Holy Grail of what you are looking for as it is all about what men need to do to get their women attracted to and desiring them again and much of it is about getting to the gym to lose the flab, getting more assertive and growing a spine and balls again and it is also about getting more ambitious in the male role of advancing in their careers and taking better care of their families as well about getting out and developing better social skills and building social circles.

 

It IS your Holy Grail.

 

BUT you can set him down and read the book to him like a little kid's bedtime story, but he is going to have to be motivated enough to actually do some heavy lifting.

 

I'm not sure he's up to that challenge. As I said earlier, most men in order for them to see the light and step up to the plate, something drastic has to happen like their wife having an affair or packing up the kids and leaving them. You've already had the affair and he's still sitting on the couch. Not looking good for the home team

 

But here's something to consider. Get him the book, get him on the site. Tell him he needs to step up or you're outta there.

 

And if he still sits on the couch then you'll know you did everything you could and you'll know it's a lost cause.

 

It's worth an honest try. Get the books and get on that site. There is a section just for wives trying to get their husbands off the couch.

[emotionlessbutalive]

OK if you insist on trying to work this out and trying to fix him up like an old rusty '57 Chevy I'll refer you to book series and another site.

 

The book is called, "The Married Man Sexlife Primer" and I'm sure this site won't let me link another site so I'll just say that the site's name is the same as the book but without the 'Primer" word in it.

 

It truly is the Holy Grail of what you are looking for as it is all about what men need to do to get their women attracted to and desiring them again and much of it is about getting to the gym to lose the flab, getting more assertive and growing a spine and balls again and it is also about getting more ambitious in the male role of advancing in their careers and taking better care of their families as well about getting out and developing better social skills and building social circles.

 

It IS your Holy Grail.

 

BUT you can set him down and read the book to him like a little kid's bedtime story, but he is going to have to be motivated enough to actually do some heavy lifting.

 

I'm not sure he's up to that challenge. As I said earlier, most men in order for them to see the light and step up to the plate, something drastic has to happen like their wife having an affair or packing up the kids and leaving them. You've already had the affair and he's still sitting on the couch. Not looking good for the home team

 

But here's something to consider. Get him the book, get him on the site. Tell him he needs to step up or you're outta there.

 

And if he still sits on the couch then you'll know you did everything you could and you'll know it's a lost cause.

 

It's worth an honest try. Get the books and get on that site. There is a section just for wives trying to get their husbands off the couch.

 

getting the book today...Didnt find the site though. Do you have URL? you put it very well. I also spoke to him and he agrees....Thats the thing he always follow but never lead. and that makes me tired sometimes...I am not a dominant woman and find a man who lead the path sexy...I will try my best. Thanks for your kind advice...

[oldshirt]

getting the book today...Didnt find the site though. Do you have URL? you put it very well. I also spoke to him and he agrees....Thats the thing he always follow but never lead. and that makes me tired sometimes...I am not a dominant woman and find a man who lead the path sexy...I will try my best. Thanks for your kind advice...

 

Married man sexlife dot com.

 

It may be just your ticket. I am sure you are going to have some lights and alarms going off and you'll say, "YES! THAT'S IT!"

 

The question is whether he will get it and step up to the plate.