conzboneeus Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Getting back into dating looking for some feedback. Met a women from online for coffee Wednesday. I liked her she liked me could tell. She talked about "next time" during our 30 minute chat (she was on way to work in am) About noon same day she texted me saying she had a great time (guess the coffee was good!) and we should get together soon. I didn't see text right away and in the meantime had emailed her saying we should get together next Wednesday night. So we were both on same page. BTW I really like assertive, independent women who go for what they want. You ladies out there don't ever feel like a guy will be put off by that. If he's a confident, secure man he will dig it. If he doesn't you don't want to date him. So I thought perhaps it would be a good idea just to shoot her a quick text today saying didn't want you to forget about me, have a good weekend, call u Sunday night. Just felt like not touching base for more than a few days after we both obviously liked each other wasn't smart. Will call her Sunday night and firm up plans for next Wednesday. To me after a 30 min meet that seems like an appropriate amount of contact to show I'm interested but not a stalker. Thoughts?
LilGirlandOW Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Depends on the woman, I am a princess fairy tale type, when my bf texts me it's exciting like a football touchdown lol .
Grumpybutfun Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 conz: Just be who you are and do what you feel. Dating to some seems like an enigma wrapped inside of a puzzle wrapped inside a riddle with a key no one has seen in a million years. I loved dating, loved women and I think it showed because I had no problems with it. I just did what came naturally to me. I treated them with respect and was interested in them as people. Did not play games and did not deal with bad behavior. Most women are just as worried as you are about dating. Good luck with your new dating adventure. Have tons of fun with it. You are going to be fine. Grumps
Gottabestrong Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Yeah, definitely check in with her every couple days or so. After the first few meets it is okay to skip a day or two in contact, but after 3-4 dates most women prefer daily contact. Just a heads-up for the future!
dichotomy Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Sounds like you were both on the same page - so why worry? Some women are more agressive than others. As I remember most women if they texted/emailed back after coffee... and were interested would have simply have said, "I really enjoyed meeting you"....or some flirty or nice compliment about the time together ...but would not have been forward enough to talk about meeting up again. The positive review/compliment about you and the coffee time - was the cue to ask for the next date. Some guys might also avised the "wait 24 hours" or something before asking her out for second time...but at your age why play games?
Phantom888 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 there are no rules. if she is offended by you being yourself, shes not right for you. if you are a stalker, find a girl who appreciates being stalked.
carhill Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 My only tip, as an age contemporary, would have been to call her today, not text her. If it rolled to VM, simply say " got your text/e-mail; that sounds great, looking forward to Wednesday. How about xxx at xxx?" Use your voice, that organ which was a large part of the 30 minute chat which went so well, and be proactive about making/suggesting specifics, as she was the one who suggested meeting up again on Wednesday night. 2
RedRobin Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 My only tip, as an age contemporary, would have been to call her today, not text her. If it rolled to VM, simply say " got your text/e-mail; that sounds great, looking forward to Wednesday. How about xxx at xxx?" Use your voice, that organ which was a large part of the 30 minute chat which went so well, and be proactive about making/suggesting specifics, as she was the one who suggested meeting up again on Wednesday night. Agree with this OP. Skip the texting and emailing. Always call first... leave a message if you have to. In fact, don't have any major discussions or anything 'get to know you' type interactions over text... is my advice. More than one person has seen a promising start crash and burn due to common misunderstandings over text. Another suggestion.... Read up on multi-dating. It's never something I had to deal with before I was divorced but it is practically a given in the online dating world. Find out how you feel about it early on and seek out those who are on the same page as you... whatever that page is. 1
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