ibleedblackandred Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Hi Everyone, I am new to the forums! I recently started seeing a guy who is 7 years younger than me. I met him through a family member of mine. He's 26 and I am 33. He's actually quite mature for his age, very well spoken and has a house and career. I am quite established in my career as well. When we met a few months ago, he thought I was 24 or 25. He has no problem with the age difference but I think I do, he's a great guy and everything is so far so good. Also this is a long distance, I live in one state and he lives in another state - an hour plane ride for either of us. Should I even care about the age difference and just go with the flow? Do you think it can work out in the long run? Or am I just wasting my time. 1
jeremy2125 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 the age difference between u both shouldn't be a problem. The long distance thing would be a hassle unless you both got that figured out. I personally have never been successful with long distance relationships, but depends on your situation. You should give him a chance. I don't see any taboo between a 26 and a 33 year old, just as long as he is mature of course.
StanMusial Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 If it bothers you, it bothers you. Maybe you are the more traditional type that expects the man to lead/protect/provide?
odin673 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 The age difference itself shouldn't be a problem. Are you in the same place?(Looking to get married, kids)? I am curious, why start a LDR? I can understand if you were in love but than moved apart, but why start off like this?
Author ibleedblackandred Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 Thank you so much for the info! Why start an LDR? Like I mentioned I met him through my cousin who I am extremely close with, so I was visiting with my cousin when I met my guy. He knew full well that I lived in a different city and insisted on getting my number, and after about a month of texting he insisted that I come visit him, my trip was paid for by him. At first I was hesitant but gave him a chance and he is a very respectful, sweet guy, very mature. In terms of life goals - marriage is not a big priority to me. One thing we both have in common is we are both workaholics. Although I cut down my work significantly this year, there are times he is very busy he does not have time to make me his #1 priority and same with me of him. The summers are both more laid back for us and we have more time to spend together.
d0nnivain Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 7 years isn't that much in the grand scheme of things. Would you be having this many issues if he was older than you? Age only matters in terms of life stage: when you were 24 & he was a 17 year old still in high school, that would have been a huge problem. Now, not so much. If you otherwise like him, don't worry about it. FWIW, you aren't even a cougar because he's not young enough to be your son. My husband is 5 years younger than me & my mom was older than my dad.
NoLeafClover Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 7 years only? my god, I am not even going to say anything about the age difference me and my current gf have lol I love older women than me though.
napy666 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 It's just a number? If you like the person then it will work out?
Author ibleedblackandred Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 7 years only? my god, I am not even going to say anything about the age difference me and my current gf have lol I love older women than me though. Curious whats the age difference? This is the first younger guy that I have dated, I've always gone for older guys!
CrystalCastles Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 If you like the guy and you think your relationship has a chance, disregard the age difference. If he makes you happy, the rest of those details don't matter.
MrCastle Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 33 and 26 is beautiful. I say go for it! -Sincerely, a younger man 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Hi Everyone, I am new to the forums! I recently started seeing a guy who is 7 years younger than me. I met him through a family member of mine. He's 26 and I am 33. He's actually quite mature for his age, very well spoken and has a house and career. I am quite established in my career as well. When we met a few months ago, he thought I was 24 or 25. He has no problem with the age difference but I think I do, he's a great guy and everything is so far so good. Also this is a long distance, I live in one state and he lives in another state - an hour plane ride for either of us. Should I even care about the age difference and just go with the flow? Do you think it can work out in the long run? Or am I just wasting my time. It depends what you are looking for. If it's some fun it's no problem. If it's something more serious, check that you are on the same page. I am not even talking about marriage, just a more serious relationship. Men in general are not going to be commitment minded at that age. Distance is also a problem :/ I would keep things going with him but look locally for other options which are closer to your age.
Author ibleedblackandred Posted November 23, 2013 Author Posted November 23, 2013 Thanks everyone for the great comments! The distance issue is the least of my worries - here's why: When I first met my boyfriend, he just got hired in his "dream job" which takes up 9-10 months of the year, he has the summer's off. He told me that during the season in which he works, I may not be treated as his #1 priority because of this and I said I was OK with that. I met him just before the summer so before he started his job in the middle of September and he travels a lot for work too. The summer was great, we spent a lot of time together because I have the summers off too. Now we are back in our respective homes and we text a lot. I saw him once in October for a weekend and once at the beginning of November for a weekend. I think he will get two days off around Christmas. So I knew full well that even if we did live in the same city, he would not have time for me anyways!!!
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