cavalier99 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 F*ck that b*tch. Keep it all LC and striclty professional and only as it relates to the kids. You are not her emotional tampon. She can get that support elsewhere. She broke up with you so it is her loss. Keep on seeing new girl. Take it slow and forget about the EX in any romantic sense whatsoever. She is the mom of your kids. Thats it. And all contact should only relate to them and be very curt and profession. Do not answer or ask any personal question of her. Cav
Jules78 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Start referring to her as the mother of your children. Be there for her whether she dumped you or not. She's always going to be in your life. May as well learn to make the best of it. She's obviously afraid and I see nothing wrong with being there for her. You did get into another relationship quick but most do from my experience. Some last, some don't. You can still be there for your children's mom right now and still have your new mate in your life. Going forward she will end up with a new partner of her own and may not call on you but today you are her familiar person and she needs your support. You seem like a good man. Best wishes!
Author yorkie Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 first of all can i say thank you to you both who replied. well an update today. i went to the shop i i contacted her. i asked her if she has told her family about her health concerns as i feel they should know and its not my place to tell them plus i have fallen out with most of them. she hit the roof with me saying its none of my business, i then responded angrily that i am not her emotional tool and that what she did to me was unfair. she said she only contacted me to inform me that she could not pick up the kids, i said no she didnt she told me on the phone she was crying saying she was worried she had cancer. and i had to talk her round she is now being very cold towards me and i have said to her no matter what we will talk about her kids! regarding her and her health i hope she is ok but it has nothing to do with me and she needs to get support from her family and friends. yes i am sort of seeing someone else and we are taking it very slow, partly because of my kids as they are my priority and also because we were long time friends, and we dont want to ruin things between us. its still a very sad day and the more i realise that she has changed so much and the person i once would walk on water for does not exist. yes there are massive changes ahead its around the 3 month mark for me since the split but i am happy now being single and the pining is slowly going and not as long. yes its hard because we have kids and she has lied and has talked bad of me in front of the kids. which hurts as all i have ever done is be there for my kids and i will continue to. what hurts more though is that she is not and although she says it she doesn't prove it and all woman who post or read this site im sure will ask why a woman has left her kids. well sadly she has but its great for me. but im sick of the looks and the talking behind my back which hurts. and even if she did make contact from now on regarding the relationship i will just walk off or hang up. but thanks for the advice guys i will continue to post update if ok
Author yorkie Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 wow today has been so hard emtionally for me its like i went back to the breakup again, just cant understand it all and how much she has changed i really cant you think you know someone. this doesnt mean i want her back though in my head i dont just the feelings of broken trust and everything we worked hard for and i feel sorry for my kids as she is messing them about
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