xUnknown Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 So I had a dream last night. I wont go into details but were about to start having sex...this time, instead of me putting her first, I was the one who wanted her to initiate. It was weird...her friend was there too, (I guess it was her apartment and she had a room mate)...anyways, she would start foreplay and then like stop and talk to her friend mid sentence. Finally, an argument blew up. I was angry how she never initiated and how I always go her to go first, and I was always second...(it was like this in real life too - I always started things sexually). We argued more (I forget what about), but she never really got angry or said anything back in the dream. It was me. I finally said "Why do you always run from your problems"...and she grabbed her keys and stormed out. I chased her but then it was like she vanished. I'm starting today with the though of her on my mind...but I'm trying to look at this in a positive light. Instead of me thinking about her, and how could she just bail and leave (like she did IRL) - I'm trying to figure out if my subconscious finally figured it all out. She does run from her problems, quit on things (hell, she quit on me). Did this mean my brain finally put all the pieces together? I'd appreciate your input.
radiodarcy Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 it sounds like it. I know they say that our dreams reveal a lot of what's in our subconscious. I also think it's interesting that her friend was in the dream and she stopped in the middle of things to talk to her instead of focusing on you. You're starting to see now that she's willing to put everyone else before you. And when you ask her to flip the script and put you first for once, she simply can't follow through and and will look for some other distraction instead. On a side note I think it's great you were able to remember your dream and reflect on it like that. I always try to do that but always forget the details seconds after I wake up 1
Author xUnknown Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 it sounds like it. I know they say that our dreams reveal a lot of what's in our subconscious. I also think it's interesting that her friend was in the dream and she stopped in the middle of things to talk to her instead of focusing on you. You're starting to see now that she's willing to put everyone else before you. And when you ask her to flip the script and put you first for once, she simply can't follow through and and will look for some other distraction instead. On a side note I think it's great you were able to remember your dream and reflect on it like that. I always try to do that but always forget the details seconds after I wake up Thanks Radio. I woke up and wanted to fall back into the dream to see if she was going to come back (after she drove off) but couldn't. I woke up suddenly and then the dream started racing through my head so I just thought about it. I didn't even consider the fact about her friend keeping her attention...I saw it as, she was looking for any excuse not to. However, both scenarios make perfect sense. As I mentioned earlier, my therapist mentioned I took steps backwards because there was a disconnect between the emotional and rational, conscious and subconscious parts of my mind...and I need to get that connection back. I know the things shes done to me in the past and not treated me right, but I overlooked them all because I missed her. I think this is a sign where it is starting to come back. The past 2-3 days have been much better for me - with the exception of when I woke up from the dream. I hope this keeps up. 1
radiodarcy Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 As I mentioned earlier, my therapist mentioned I took steps backwards because there was a disconnect between the emotional and rational, conscious and subconscious parts of my mind...and I need to get that connection back. I know the things shes done to me in the past and not treated me right, but I overlooked them all because I missed her. I think this is a sign where it is starting to come back. The past 2-3 days have been much better for me - with the exception of when I woke up from the dream. I hope this keeps up. That's awesome Unknown! Getting over the end of a relationship is a process and while you and I both know it doesn't happen overnight, once that crack in the facade that's to appear, that means we're finally starting to take out exes off that pedestal and that's a major step in the healing process. Keep it up!
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