I want my ex but she loves someone else

[minty]

I had been with my ex for 7 years, We have a little girl who is 5 years old. we broke up about 5 months ago which was down to me. We always break up every few months for a couple of weeks and then always get back together.

When we broke up 5 months ago, it was down to no particular reason we just broke up. At first when this happens I am not usually fussed and enjoy the freedom but after a certain time all I can think about is her. So as I usually do I go round to her house and tell her I have been a fool and would love to get back with her. Only this time she has moved on.

 

3 months ago (2 months after breaking up) she has met a new fella and now apparently loves me but she is not in love with me. He has moved in with her and my daughter and she seems very happy. I still see my daughter every day which also means I still get to see my ex every day. Fortunately we will never let anything affect our daughter whether we are apart or together.

 

I have tried my hardest to get back with her, but to be honest I don't think there is any point, I really do think she has moved on. The trouble is, since she told me about her new love, I have not been able to sleep for more than 4 hours, eat properly and think. I wake up at 4am thinking about her, get out of bed about 8am, sit on my laptop all day (xmas hols, no work) look forward to seeing my little one so i get the chance to see my ex, same when I am dropping her off. It is just a constant loop that I am stuck in. I don't want to get over her. Another thing also, is that I don't know if this is abnormal, but I keep getting sexual images of my ex and her new fella, I am cracking one off at least 4-5 times a day just by these thoughts. Forgive me if this sounds silly but I am in a real pickle here. I can't move away because of my little girl, I can't top myself because of my little girl and my mum (because I lost my dad 6 months ago and I couldn't do that to my mum).

 

I have lost all purpose in life. I need help

[Pocky]

You have a purpose - to be a father to your daughter. Accept the mistake you made by taking your girlfriend for granted and playing games with her heart. Allow her a chance at a real relationship and realize that you, no matter how much you'd like to convince yourself you are, aren't good for her. If you care for her you'd want her happy and you obviously haven't cared about the relationship enough to put the effort into it.

[iluvfrank]

i'm in love with my ex, Frank. we started dating in 8th grade when i was a new student. we were together 4 years until last year when i heard i'd be moving to another state. we were broke up at the time and never got back together. what's the point when we know i'm leaving? so months went by in Indiana. i missed him more than anything. we talked once on the phone and he confessed he's been with somebody. i knew at that moment i had to come back for him. for my first and last love. the next month, my family came back to our hometown and the first person i saw waiting for me was Frank. we immediately made up, shed some tears, and we were together forever again. unfortunately the plot thickens. one month after i moved back, all my friends threw an outrageous party for me. Frank wasn't able to come on a count he was visiting his mother who lives hours away. so i wasn't having a good time without him. well, later in the night, i was extremely drunk. i don't remember anything from that night. i woke up the next morning to see some guy sleeping naked next to me. i was naked, too! i don't know what was going on. the image that appeared in my head was the sweet face of my future husband. the party was held at my cousin's house and she told me, "whatever happens, no matter how guilty, you cannot tell Frank. he will be hurt and you will lose him, ashley." i couldn't believe what she was telling me. i know i wouldn't be able to go through with it. i saw Frank the next Monday and i tried my hardest and i held it in. i acted as if nothing happened. i felt horrible. i love him more than anything. well, i told him a few days later and he left me. well, i was convinced it was over because he had a girlfriend the next week. i was so jealous. i cried for weeks. i told myself i needed to get over him. i met a nice, good-looking guy, Ronnie. we hit it off great. i was only dating Ronnie, though, to make Frank realize he needs to be with me. i had no feelings for Ronnie at all. i couldn't love anyone else. so 5 months later, i left Ronnie. all that time waiting for Frank, he never came. i have been single for 3 months now and i'm still in love with Frank. Frank has now found another girl who he's been with for a month. i should never have told him i cheated. i'm sorry and he forgives me, but he says he's still not over what i did to him. i've waited for Frank for 9 months. i love him so much. he tells me that he still loves me. "you were my first love," he says. i've tried my hardest to get my baby back. i've hurt him so much that after 9 months, he's still not come after me. he always has. when we'd break up, he'd come after me. i'd always take him back and give him chances. i've asked him for one last chance for us and he won't budge. he wants me to give him time to think about being together again. please, i need advice. what should i do? there's no point in dating someone else. it doesn't work. i can't seem to get over him. i don't want to love anyone else.