Guitarisgood Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 I threw caution to the wind and went bold with the new girl. She's the high quality nice girl type. We really connected - same values, same morals etc everything. She was impressed by my confidence and continues to rave about our first date to this day. Third date we were naked and making out, fourth we had sex. It was awkward and didn't end well (I couldn't perform). Then I spilt the beans this was my first time and she went wierd. She said she doesn't move this fast and normally wants to be friends first. I agreed and decided we should take it slow then we had oral sex and I made her orgasm (I'm not that clueless). Spent the night cuddling and locking lips well into the morning before we left. We then spent the next day together. Initially it seemed she was more withdrawn but started warming up as the day went. I dunno, it felt as if something changed between us. A lot more silent yet it seemed comfortable (although that may have been my take?) At the same time she had become much more affectionate all the while planning a trip for me to head over to where she lives (interstate) to meet family, her events etc. She loved that I had spent the day with her doing boring tasks. I had asked her if we were alright after last night and she said there was nothing wrong between us but that's the thing, girls say one thing and many a times mean another. We left on a good note after heading back to hers, giving each other massages half naked all the while making out. So what do I do now? I am not sure how to progress or what to make of this as honestly, this is the first proper relationship I've actually had.
Philosoraptor Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Sounds like she was either intimidated by it being your first time or she knew she was moving fast and didn't want you to get a negative impression of her. If right after you two still had some level of intimacy I wouldn't overthink this too much. Just continue to do things as they feel right and don't overthink things.
d0nnivain Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Ignore it. Just keep going along as if you didn't tell her that you were a virgin. It's kind of a fake it 'till you make it philosophy. She's probably freaked out that you think she's easy. Because you had never done this before doing it on the 4th date as opposed to after dating for a long time, she may be afraid that you are losing respect for her. Do not ask her this. Just find periodic (no more than 1 per week or less) reasons to tell her you respect her. Priase her independence & judgment. She may also be concerned that since she was your 1st, that you will become unnnaturally attached to her too fast. As long as you are not naturally a clingy guy, it should be fine.
DrSimple Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 She spent more time with you and continued with intimacy. You are fine man. She reacting to how she feels about taking your virginity. She is reacting to how she feels about being intimate sooner then she normally is. If this is faster then her normal approach, that means you charmed her pants off. Cheers to that!
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