va1975 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Dumper. I have to work with my ex and it drives me crazy. Wondering if it was for the best and knowing he is attempting to play happy families whilst still lying to people that he is single!
Jmk21 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Most painful. She literally turned her back on me/us. put all the blame on my shoulders which I accepted at first thinking I was horrible. She showed 0compassion.NEVER reached to me until I went NC. The things that hurt me the most. The replacement The month I hardly ate anything. I went from a lean 175 to a VERY scrawny 150lbs in a a little over 30 days when I was being strung along. Lost interest in everything in my life including the gym. Those are some of the main reasons I'd never get back with her even if she came back. She had the power to make me feel like that, to put me through that hell. She can't have that power again. Or my friendship
sun1972 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Most painful. She literally turned her back on me/us. put all the blame on my shoulders which I accepted at first thinking I was horrible. She showed 0compassion.NEVER reached to me until I went NC. The things that hurt me the most. The replacement The month I hardly ate anything. I went from a lean 175 to a VERY scrawny 150lbs in a a little over 30 days when I was being strung along. Lost interest in everything in my life including the gym. Those are some of the main reasons I'd never get back with her even if she came back. She had the power to make me feel like that, to put me through that hell. She can't have that power again. Or my friendship i know about the weight thing, i just dont want to eat, in contrast she went for a meal with the girls last night apparently..and has been coping well..altho she did break down at work the day after.. it hurts that she is seeming fine even tho i wouldnt wish her harm.. how does that work? i can relate to the lost interest bit as well, i havent trained since, and im AMAZED i still have my job as i spend my days browsing 'get your ex back' sites and here... cant focus on anything my sleep... dont know how i am still awake as im averaging 3 hours a night tops..
Jmk21 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 i can relate to the lost interest bit as well, i havent trained since, and im AMAZED i still have my job as i spend my days browsing 'get your ex back' sites and here... cant focus on anything my sleep... dont know how i am still awake as im averaging 3 hours a night tops.. Yep I was there in the exact spot not long ago. Until the anger stage came to me. Hold onto that as long as possible and use it to drive you. I wish no ill will towards my ex, I do hope one day she sees HER part in the BU and why it happened and not just because of me. One day you will just accept there is no hope and your the only one hanging on The sooner you find that acceptance the sooner you start becoming yourself again
Never Again Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 For me the most painful thing is knowing it was down to me! That if i had done things differently we would be happy. Yeah. Same.
sun1972 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Yeah. Same. Did you try to convince them things would change? or just walk away?
Heartbroken Eagle Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Initially what hurts from the BU was my ex blaming me for the split while she was embarking on a sordid online affair. Looking back now, she never took any responsibility for anything bad that happened, it was always someone elses fault. Also I trusted her and she took full advantage of that. Realising now that there was a series of lies from her over the years, not just at the end. She also humilated me in a number of intimate texts she sent to 'Friends' which I saw on her phone, but she still denied it. And, after I found out about her affair, she was not willing to reconcile or fight for the relationship for the sakes of our 7 year old son. I guess in hindsight she was right in this, we were well beyond repair and she just did'nt care anymore. In fact what really hurts is that the woman I first met all those years ago, the sweet, kind hearted, generous person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, turned out to be a totally selfish bitch. It is scary how someone can change so much. 2
LadyM Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 Do you think he loved you? Or was he just a user. He never loved me. Definitely a user. A self-proclaimed serial monogamist. A life-long history of bouncing from woman to woman. When we're "new," we are the best thing ever. Then, we're not. I naively thought it would be different with me. What a fool I was.
Heartbroken Eagle Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 LadyM, don't beat yourself up, it's this love busines, it can make a fool out of anybody...
LadyM Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 LadyM, don't beat yourself up, it's this love busines, it can make a fool out of anybody... Thanks, Heartbroken Eagle. I know you're probably right. Logic goes out the window when it comes to love.
ByMyself01 Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 What hurts the most about my breakup is that he acted so cold the day he left. Everyday before that point we were like bestfriends. For him to just walk out of the door without a word, hurt me more than anyone has ever done. All I wanted was atleast a goodbye. Atleast!
Jyden Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 That they gave up so easily Would've thought the relationship meant more to them then that.
feelingtorn Posted November 23, 2013 Posted November 23, 2013 The fact my ex did not want to give us another try after spending two years and 7 months together. He did initially, but changed his mind four days later. 1
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