lil_missy Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 so been seeing this guy casually for a couple months, we dont talk everyday but kept regular contact and both have our own pretty separate lives. last time i saw him was about 1 month ago everything seemed perfectly fine. then i didnt hear from him for a month, during this month i texted him twice, once to ask where his been and second kind of like an angry text that i havnt heard from him. then i wrote him off as having disappeared, was pretty upset about it for a while. as i couldnt understand why he couldnt have just simply told me it wasnt working or whatevs. now 4 weeks later he texts me and tells me that he had been sick with glandular but is now recovered and hopes i been well. theres no mention of the 2 texts i sent him and no apologies. ive never had GF but have heard it can be quite bad, should i give him benefit of doubt and reply to him? or just forget about him?
Little_Discourage Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 I'd be skeptical about him not contacting you at all for a month. I can understand him not seeing you during that time considering he can be contagious for up to two months after the initial infection. Did you ask him what he's been up to other than being sick? I'd just ask him straight. Good luck!
todreaminblue Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 so been seeing this guy casually for a couple months, we dont talk everyday but kept regular contact and both have our own pretty separate lives. last time i saw him was about 1 month ago everything seemed perfectly fine. then i didnt hear from him for a month, during this month i texted him twice, once to ask where his been and second kind of like an angry text that i havnt heard from him. then i wrote him off as having disappeared, was pretty upset about it for a while. as i couldnt understand why he couldnt have just simply told me it wasnt working or whatevs. now 4 weeks later he texts me and tells me that he had been sick with glandular but is now recovered and hopes i been well. theres no mention of the 2 texts i sent him and no apologies. ive never had GF but have heard it can be quite bad, should i give him benefit of doubt and reply to him? or just forget about him? glandular fever i shorrible my sister had it took her out for six weeks..........i have to take my daughter to the blood screen place tomorrow to make sure her tonsilitis isnt glandular fever.......she runs fevers has chills nausea swollen glands tonsils that look like a frog in a blender......she is extremely unwell.....give him the benefit of the doubt.......if you care for him until proven otherwise believe him because...you can...if i care for someone ...chances are given until it is proven they dont care either way ..if i dont care.....i let them go............deb
nescafe1982 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 My uncle had a stroke one day. Still found a way to text the woman he had taken out a couple times to let her know so she wouldn't think he'd disappeared on her. He literally texted her from his hospital bed. If you *really* like the guy and have nothing to lose by going out with him again, that's your decision, and I don't think there'd be anything wrong with it. But that he didn't make contact demonstrates something. So make a note of it. 1
Author lil_missy Posted November 22, 2013 Author Posted November 22, 2013 yeh my thought was even if he did have glandular and even if it was bad, i understand that happens and its terrible. but he could have still replied to my texts, only takes a sec. i really felt like its bcuz he didnt want to see me anymore.
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 I'm sure he was communicating with friends, co-workers, family during that time so if he wanted to get in touch with you he could have done. Honestly sounds like he just lost interest and then came up with a retrospective half-assed excuse. The fact he didn't apologise or ask you out again screams volumes: he's not interested.
Author lil_missy Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 I'm sure he was communicating with friends, co-workers, family during that time so if he wanted to get in touch with you he could have done. Honestly sounds like he just lost interest and then came up with a retrospective half-assed excuse. The fact he didn't apologise or ask you out again screams volumes: he's not interested. im sure he was in touch with friends and family during this time. but me and him dont have the kind of relationship where we really talk about eachother's lives anyway, esp we dont talk about our bad days. i guess we only get together to have fun. sadly im one of those girls that hooks up with a guy first then start to want more after a while. =S he usually only contacts me to make plans so could it be that he was really sick and didnt see the point in contacting me til he got better? and just bcuz he didnt ask me out outright, im pretty sure that is his intention. otherwise why would he even bother to msg me and ask how i been and saying his been thinking about me blah blah. still would have been nice to apologise for being MIA. i also read on one of those advice columns that guys dont like to show weakness or something and only wants to show a girl their good side.
winny Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 im sure he was in touch with friends and family during this time. but me and him dont have the kind of relationship where we really talk about eachother's lives anyway, esp we dont talk about our bad days. i guess we only get together to have fun. sadly im one of those girls that hooks up with a guy first then start to want more after a while. =S he usually only contacts me to make plans so could it be that he was really sick and didnt see the point in contacting me til he got better? and just bcuz he didnt ask me out outright, im pretty sure that is his intention. otherwise why would he even bother to msg me and ask how i been and saying his been thinking about me blah blah. still would have been nice to apologise for being MIA. i also read on one of those advice columns that guys dont like to show weakness or something and only wants to show a girl their good side. I would say give him benefit of doubt this time. But do let him that you felt a bit bad since he didn't contact u for so long and thought he has lost interest in seeing you anymore.
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