cfranz508 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 I never thought I'd be at a forum but I am just not all too sure what to do... I am at a fork in the road and not sure what to do with what's been going on with my ex who I really truly love still, so here is some background. So my girlfriend and I dated for about 10 months and we just broke up a little over a month ago (Oct. 1). She was the one who broke it off because there was a lot going on in both of our lives with stress and all the rest from school, and I seemed unhappy because I had just appeared miserable and unhappy for the week leading up to the break up. The reason I seemed this way was not because of me, but because of the medicines I had been on. Due to me being depressed I kind of picked on stuff in the relationship and acted like someone I wasn't, I picked on things like her not having enough time to spend with me, she would be bad at texting back, would ignore me to go be with her friends and stuff like that which all really weren't true! And I truly wouldn't have said that, because in all honesty I was her world, and she was mine... Anyways, that's why we broke up because I seemed unhappy and she was unhappy because of all of the stress from the relationship and feeling like a bad girlfriend. After we broke up I tried two weeks after we broke up to try and talk to her apologize and win her back. I still was depressed at the time since I was still on the meds so my argument prolly wasn't too convincing but I said I was acting like that because of the medicine and all that was going on and I was sorry for acting like I did, and I wanted her back because she didn't seem as happy as anymore. She said no though because she was scared things would go right back to being "heavy", since this was her first relationship and she is a senior and was scared of trying since she'd be leaving in less than a year only to go through the hurt of breaking up again... But mainly she didn't yet seem ready to "swallow her pride" since I texted her a few more days but haven't talked to her in under a month really.. So I ask what should I do? Should I wait a little longer and try again, become friends like we were when we were dating and become close again and then tell her, or what? Or is it just best to move on?
r321148 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Well the first thing you need to do is to make sure you've sorted yourself out. You also need to make sure she will be more committed to a relationship. You picked up that she didn't have enough time for you so obviously it was a problem for you. If the problems that existed before are still there then the relationship will end the same way again. I have suffered with depression too and it can be hard for a partner to cope with. I have also dated someone with depression, it can be hard work seeing them unhappy and not knowing the reason for it. Some people just aren't cut out for it and never will be. I'm not saying your girl is one of them but she clearly can't handle it with the stress of school as well. I think your best bet here is to leave it for a while. She needs to focus on her school and you need to focus on yourself for a bit. It might work in time but only after you have both corrected the issues that ended the relationship. That is best done alone. Good luck
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