Don't feel wanted

[twinkie0]

I was dating this girl and we kinda broke up over the summer, we were discussing the things that went wrong (why did/didn't you do this or that) and she just said she didn't want to talk about it anymore and that we should just "let things happen". So I agreed, not because I wanted to avoid conflict, but because I just wanted to get back with her.

 

And we've been talking a lot lately and it all seemed great, but sometimes I feel like she's lost interest, but just when I get a feeling like this she responds to a message or something like that happens. But I feel like I'm always the one showing interest, it's really frustrating.

 

It's hard to explain, it's not just a matter of: she's not interested. Because we have been together and she does show affection. I like to take action on things, not just "let this happen", I don't like to improvise, to "wing it" as if I was going out drinking with my buddies.

 

I'm really troubled by all this, advice would be greatly appreciated.

Edited November 22, 2013 by twinkie0

[DrSimple]

The best litmus test you can do is to stop contact. If she feels you are important to her she will contact YOU.

 

Sounds to me like you guys broke up, she lost interest, and is trying to move on. She might just be trying to be nice by discussing things with you, perhaps she feels a little guilty for ending things and wants you to feel better.

 

Bottom line from what you said: She isn't interested NOW so move on. If she wants you, let her come to you later. Get over her and start looking elsewhere.

 

Once an ex, always an ex in my books. If there is a reason why the relationship ended then move on and don't dwell.

[MissyM007]

I agree. Half the communication. If you text her 4 times a week text her twice or even once. She may ask you could just say oh I've just been busy. She has to want you and should give a little. Just because she wants to see how it goes doesn't man she can just leave it!! So slow it all down and if she asks about where its going just say you didn't think she was that bothered because of her effort. Good luck.