LiveLoveLaugh Posted December 28, 2004 Posted December 28, 2004 Ok, I need to know what is up with the dating websites. Sometimes, when bored, I check out the single web sites to "see what's out there" and today I checked into yahoo's personals, and I swear, out of 16 pictures, 14 were absolutley beautiful men. perfect bod's, making 100+ income. That just can't be, I think they are playing the old "bait and switch". Some of these guys had black and white model portfolios posted. I have a hard time believing guys that look like that need a dating site to find a date. One of them, I swear, was an actor from my moms soap! I think it is false advertising, and when you pay the $19.95, all the fuglys will suddenly show up!Has anyone else ever noticed this?
indigo_moon Posted December 28, 2004 Posted December 28, 2004 I have a profile on Yahoo Canada and I surely don't see many hot guys lol...most of the look like they're on a day pass from the loony bin Are you viewing this profiles as a "guest" or did you actually create a (free) profile and then browse the profiles that way? Some sites I've used had the kinds of pics you're talking about....look like professional model shots....just to bait the women, I've heard that's not an uncommon thing for these places to do ..but for you to find so many of them?
Huntr777 Posted December 28, 2004 Posted December 28, 2004 Hi there, I saw your posting and just had to reply to it… I’m a 37 year old guy, and have been dating around for the last few years. A little over a year ago I was between girlfriends and decided to give online dating a whirl. At first I was a little hesitant about it, thinking that all I was going to find online were “bottom feeders”, so to speak. But then I figured that nothing ventured nothing gained, and signed up to EHarmony. It was OK, spoke to and met a few people. No real sparks, but it was kind of fun meeting new people this way. I tried a few other sites here and there, with varying results. Then I signed up to Yahoo. At first I just put my picture and ad up and posted it. For a while I really didn’t really pay too much attention to it, tried a few other sites to see what would happen. When my last subscription with Eharmony ran out, I decided to give Yahoo a try, since it was free. I started doing some searches, and really couldn’t believe the girls I was seeing. I mean, they were really pretty. You can even send "icebreakers" to as many people as you want for free (if you want to send them an email then it's $19.99 a month). I received an email from a girl not too far from me…and when I saw her picture…let me tell you, she was definitely not a bottom feeder (she’s actually a model). We met, and I have to tell you, she was everything in her ad and even more, and she’s one of the cutest girls I’ve ever dated in my life. I asked why a girl who is as smart and beautiful as her would need a dating site...she told me that she was tired of guys who dated her only for her looks. She wanted to meet a guy who she had a lot in common with, that's why she emailed me. Hey, who was I to argue about dating sites then? I feel that a lot of the stigma of online dating is pretty much gone these days, in part because the internet is so ingrained in our daily lives. Also, a lot of people don’t like doing the bar/club scene, and online dating is a good way to get to know somebody at your own pace. When I told a friend of mine that I was on a dating site, she couldn’t believe it. Her attitude was that I was always with a girl, why did I join a dating site? I told her because I kept on wanting to meet people, because when I fall into a rut of not dating anybody, I tend to stay there for a while. So I say give Yahoo a try, you never know…some of those pictures of guys you’re seeing may very well be real. And here’s a tip, if you sign up for one month, and then cancel at the end of the month, Yahoo will give a month free to keep you as a member (which averages out to $10 a month). Come on, you’re worth $10 a month, aren’t you? What can I say? It's worked for me... Here’s some of the sites I tried and what I think of them… Yahoo – Great American Singles – Good EHarmony – OK, but $50 a month is too expensive AdultFriendFinder – Awful (Most ads are “fake” ads that send you to a pay site) Good luck!
alphamale Posted December 28, 2004 Posted December 28, 2004 many of these are fake personals posted by jokesters or by individuals "loosely associated" with the website. They do this to drum up business and get people to subscribe and then when they respond to these supposedly "perfect" ads they never get a response.
Huntr777 Posted December 28, 2004 Posted December 28, 2004 That may be true with other sites AlphaMale (AdultFriendFinder jumps to mind for that)...but that's not what I've found with Yahoo. As a matter of fact, you can tell Yahoo if an ad is Spam and they will delete it. Hunter
moimeme Posted December 28, 2004 Posted December 28, 2004 I have a friend who's been pleased with the fellows she's met on match.com. She likes the fact that the site allows for a fairly lengthy letter of introduction if people wish to add one and she chooses fellows who take the time and trouble to write coherent and interesting letters.
_Saffy_ Posted December 28, 2004 Posted December 28, 2004 i signed up with love@lycos a few years back, and met the man of my dreams there..........plus making heaps of great buddies. well worth a try
tiki Posted December 28, 2004 Posted December 28, 2004 I prefer real life people. I've had too many bad occurrences. Thank GOD I'm out of the dating scene now. You know, I've heard that most people meet their spouse/mate/lover through a network of friends, that it's the most likely way you'll meet that person. Try that!
Author LiveLoveLaugh Posted December 28, 2004 Author Posted December 28, 2004 Originally posted by indigo_moon I have a profile on Yahoo Canada and I surely don't see many hot guys lol...most of the look like they're on a day pass from the loony bin Are you viewing this profiles as a "guest" or did you actually create a (free) profile and then browse the profiles that way? Some sites I've used had the kinds of pics you're talking about....look like professional model shots....just to bait the women, I've heard that's not an uncommon thing for these places to do ..but for you to find so many of them? i just clicked on yahoo personals because i was checking my e-mail and it was at the top of the page, so i was like, ok, let's see who needs a woman! I don't intend on signing up for any of them, i'm not looking for anyone, just , "looking" i have never had trouble dating before, i think i'm ok, plus these people are all wanting a relationship, not where i am by a long shot! but, ladies i wish i could show you this one page, i swear i have never seen such a collection of good looking men! i still can't believe it is real. some of their profiles and what they are looking for were identical too, which i thought was also strange. i still think it is a scam.
Huntr777 Posted December 28, 2004 Posted December 28, 2004 Hey Live Love Laugh, so what's stopping you from sending an icebreaker for free? Come on! You're throwing up roadblocks in your way. Send an icebreaker and see what happenes! I think there's very very little chance that every ad you're seeing is fake. Honestly, the only fake ones I've ever received are girls from Russia looking for friendship (yeah right). And you can tell them by the .ru on their emails. Hunter
Author LiveLoveLaugh Posted December 28, 2004 Author Posted December 28, 2004 well, lets see...one of the guys is Pierce Brosnan, another is a model for C.K. (I have seen the same pic in people magazine!) and another is from "All My Children". Yeah, these guys need an internet date, right! A few others look familiar as well, male models I think. just can't do it.
curiousnycgirl Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 Being a very busy semi-workaholic, I am very well aquainted with online dating sites. Yes many of the profiles are come ons - you will find that on most of the "vanilla" sites (ie match, jdate, yahoo, etc) the fake profiles will be of men. However on the racier sites (alt, AFF, etc) the fakes are women. The reality of the situation is that there are fewer men registering for the serious sites, and fewer women on the racier sites. The marketers clearly need to bait the waters. Having said that I have met a number of very wonderful men on both types of sites. Not all were love connections - some were brief romances and others are good friends. You just need to weed through the fakes and phonies to find the real ones. I find online meeting a very time effective way of meeting folks. I met my current b/f of over 6 months online. Believe it or not we met on one of the racier sites - and here we are in an actual relationship! Best of luck with it.
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