Rsom33 Posted December 28, 2004 Posted December 28, 2004 To tell you the truth this is my last shot at figuring my situation. I have talked this out with professionals, men of faith, family and friends. I cant seem to figure this out. To make a long story short my ex and I broke up 8 months ago, and I cant seem to get her out of my mind. I tried digging into my work and that failed, tried spending more time at the gym, and on and on but I cant seem to forget about her and move on. I have tried to talk it out with her, she still woulnt budge. She is firm on the seperation. This has turned my life into total chaos. I force myself to eat, sleep, and so on. I dont know what to do! How do I get her off my mind and move on? It seems like all that I want is her. I have tried dating other people but its just not the same. Does anyone know of any coping skills...anything?
Puma Posted December 28, 2004 Posted December 28, 2004 its because u have created a pattern for yourself...u say its been 8 mths and still cant forget her. u dont need to forget her..u never will, even someone who has cheated on us can not be forgotten. what u mustdo for yourself is continue to tell urself that ur a great person that can live for yourself adn that she was someoen who was put in ur life for a reason..do not think u can forget her! u can only cope with it and attach happy memories in order to feel great again. u miss her dont you?? or else u wouldnt be thinkin of her so much, i understand..now im gonna tell u to think positively about ur situation and positive things will happen. practice prayer, hope, and be confident of who u are. make a list of all the great things u have in ur life..look it over everytime u feel down and liek uhave failed. i bet u have a lot more great things goin for u than u may think right now..expand them. dont feel bad that u think of her..accept it and smile. i dont belive in luck..so im gonna wish you the best, expect the best always and youwill get taht. to many people will tell u to expect the worst, well guess what..they get the worst. u are what u think u are
Author Rsom33 Posted December 28, 2004 Author Posted December 28, 2004 Johan, the break up was mutual, we both agreed that we needed some space for a little while. We were living on top of each other. We both decided at the time to get back together after a month, but she decided other wise.
alphamale Posted December 28, 2004 Posted December 28, 2004 if you still talk or are "friends" then I suggest you don't contact her anymore and don't be friends in any capacity whatsoever. you did not mention this above but if you are still talking or seeing her it will make it much worse. also, get rid of any and all t hings that remind you of her. Pics, presents, whatever.
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