mikecr50 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Don't be an orbiter! If you want to stay friends just back way off, like MAYBE happy birthday. DO NOT mention your feelings ever again to her. Friend zone is just letting you down easy. Nothing will stop a woman that feels the same as you do. It's self induced torture to stay friends(trying). After six months in college you'll have to dig deep to remember her, not trying to be mean.
Author JBrigg916 Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 Don't be an orbiter! If you want to stay friends just back way off, like MAYBE happy birthday. DO NOT mention your feelings ever again to her. Friend zone is just letting you down easy. Nothing will stop a woman that feels the same as you do. It's self induced torture to stay friends(trying). After six months in college you'll have to dig deep to remember her, not trying to be mean. Well it's much harder to back off since we hang out in the same group of friends. :/ I would still like to talk to her since she's actually one of the few friends I get to see...she still comes to hang out at my house (is that ok)? Also I have mostly moved and think of her more as like my twin sister (she said we are like twins xD). I tend to move on quickly since I have to do it most of my whole life, I never used to stay in the same place more than 2 or 3 years, so I had to forget about my friends I had quickly.
StanMusial Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 The sooner you get over your feelings for her the better. If you hang out all the time, eventually she's going to start bringing other guys around or hooking up with other guys. That will sting even more, unless you separate those feelings out.
Author JBrigg916 Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 (edited) The sooner you get over your feelings for her the better. If you hang out all the time, eventually she's going to start bringing other guys around or hooking up with other guys. That will sting even more, unless you separate those feelings out. I've done almost that, just need a few days for the rest of the feeling to disperse; it will probably sting, but I have to accept the fact that she's a free person and can date who she would like to bring round, it's non of my buisness...other than telling her if something is wrong and offering support if things don't seem right. The thing is though I really enjoy talking to her and having her company as just friends...so I don't really want to lose that :/ Edited November 26, 2013 by JBrigg916
Author JBrigg916 Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 Last Bump, would like an answer
MalachiX Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 What answer do you want? Seems like everything is pretty clear and you've gotten all the advise you need. Part of moving on is trying not to obsess about the past. I know that's hard but it's doable if you put your mind to it.
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