freebird31 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Sometimes I'm scared of being in that vulnerable place I once was in in the beginning of the breakup. (Its been 7 months now) I really fear of going back to that horrible dark time in my life again. I fear something is going to trigger it like seeing him somewhere, or him popping up out of the blue to try to talk to me or even just a text from him (its been 2 months since hes contacted me). I am at a really good and stable place in my life right now. It took me so long and so much to get here but I did it. I guess I am just so scared to feel that horrific pain again. I hope he stays gone and invisible to me for as long as possible....and i hope enough time will pass for me to get over it and no longer hurt over it if he does come back around. Thats all I truly want and pray for. 1
Grumpybutfun Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 freebird: Instead of trying to avoid the pain, just embrace it and let it run its' usual course. Otherwise you may live in fear, or only half live. Go ahead and grieve the end of your relationship and be glad that you know peace is there when you are done grieving. Nothing is worse than pushing it down and then it coming out at a really inopportune moment when you are already vulnerable. Good Luck, Grumps 2
d0nnivain Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 There's no need to be scared. You survived it once. You can do it again if you have to plus, you rarely go all the way back to square one. 1
RDawg Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 Isn't it terrible how the people we love, and who leave us have so much power and impact on us! Months and years after they exit our lives. I swear those of us on this forum are all dysfunctional and we should all be shot in the interests of weeding out emotional weakness in the human race..
Author freebird31 Posted December 8, 2013 Author Posted December 8, 2013 freebird: Instead of trying to avoid the pain, just embrace it and let it run its' usual course. Otherwise you may live in fear, or only half live. Go ahead and grieve the end of your relationship and be glad that you know peace is there when you are done grieving. Nothing is worse than pushing it down and then it coming out at a really inopportune moment when you are already vulnerable. Good Luck, Grumps Thanks, youre right. Its going on 8 months and I was okay for the last two months. I felt happy again. But this week, the emotions are coming around. Instead of avoiding them, I just would rather embrace them and cry every tear I can. I just want to grieve properly so this could be done already. It still hurts so much though.
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