jeremy2125 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 I was told that I was acting pathetic about a recent incident between me and someone I was supposed to be dating. Perhaps I grew attached too quickly before things ever started. Yet she sent me all the right signals, never pushed me away when I was flirting with her or touching her, and even got a kiss from her. Yeah sure the kiss was just a peck on the lips, but everything seemed to be heading somewhere, because she hinted the idea to me the last time she dropped me off at my dorm. I was planning on making it official the next time I invited her over. She said she was going to be busy for the whole week. So I gave her space and didn't bother her for the rest of the week. I tried contacting her again but she said the same thing the week after. One week turned into three, which grew alarming of course. She was ignoring my texts which should have been a message to me that she lost interest. She finally told me that she wanted to be on her own. After trying to nudge me into dating her, she changed her mind even though she said she didn't even MAKE A DECISION. I was broken but not completely shattered yet at this time. I belong to a fraternity at my college, everyone seems to get along, as part of our code no fellow brother will touch another brother's date or target (depending on the type of person they where if you know what I mean). I made sure I let every one of them know that she was off limits. I forgot to let some of them know. It turns out one of my frat brothers that I didn't get to in time started a relationship with her a couple of days after she said she wanted to be on her own! Now I'm upset with her, but I couldn't be upset with my brother he didn't know, he is never around to hear anything. I decided to tell him everything face to face about what happened. Turns out she did the exact same thing to him as she did to me. I shook his hand and said I don't care that you are in a relationship with her and i'm only mad at her. We said our goodbyes as he drove off to his apartment. He started texting me justifying the position we were all in for himself and her and blamed the failed attempt on me. That there was nothing going on between her and I at all. That I was being a pathetic loser about all of this and was completely immature. I don't respect him as a brother anymore and I have to deal with the awkwardness of being in the same room with this girl for the rest of the year since she is going to be in my math classes this semester and the next. I just got some questions though. Is there a guilty party? Was I wrong about this "attempted" relationship? Am I being a sore loser? Keep in mind, I gave her indications about what my intentions were with her and she happily agreed. This includes but not limited to: (putting my hand on her knee, stroking her thigh, gliding fingers up and down her neck and back, her body laid against mine while my arms are wrapped around her, a sensual message, the infamous peck on the lips). Perhaps I should have made my move while I had the chance or perhaps I already sealed the deal. Remember she even indicated that the deal was sealed. What Happened? I would like some feedback on my questions.
Mr Scorpio Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 If anyone here could tell you exactly why she did this, they would not be here, they would be eating raptor-egg omelets in a castle made of moon-rock. Maybe she was only interested in you until she found out she could have you. Maybe she found someone she wanted to be with more. Maybe somehow you did act "pathetically" and she lost interest because of that. I don't think there is a particular "guilty party" in this scenario based on what I've read.
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