ByMyself01 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Although he didn't contact me to get back together or anything like that, he was respectful, but I don't trust it was all he wanted. He asked me to find out when will his things arrive in his city. I totally ignored the email he sent me because he will get his things when he gets them. He even referred to me as "Ms. Wallace" which is my last name. He never does that, only when he is being playful. I really believe he wants to find a reason for us to spark up a conversation. I do want the conversation as stated in my other thread for closure, but I'm afraid that I could possibly be wrong about him wanting to talk with me and I end up feeling worse than I do now. I'm going to follow my first mind and ignore the email, but I never shipped his things because he never gave me the money to do so, so maybe I should start by asking him for the money first. I told him I would ship the first box for him, but I just don't have the money right now.
CherryT Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 I skimmed through your post… I think the closure you need to be OK with is that he decided to go back home to where he was comfortable with and maybe to his ex. You mentioned that you felt unlovable and he tired to reassure you. He also sent a suicide note, does he have depression? If you're depressed or insecure and you're looking to someone who is depressed to give you that affection, it's not likely he was able to provide that to you. Whether his reason was he tried to love you like he said or something else, you need to take that as enough closure and try and move on. In terms of his stuff, he did move to a different state to be with you. At the very least you should respond to the email to let him know that it hasn't been shipped and arrange payment for him to get his belongings (if they're that important). If he suggests talking about the relationship, you can decide whether you're ready for that. But don't ever expect it or you'll be disappointed if it doesn't come.
Author ByMyself01 Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 I skimmed through your post… I think the closure you need to be OK with is that he decided to go back home to where he was comfortable with and maybe to his ex. You mentioned that you felt unlovable and he tired to reassure you. He also sent a suicide note, does he have depression? If you're depressed or insecure and you're looking to someone who is depressed to give you that affection, it's not likely he was able to provide that to you. Whether his reason was he tried to love you like he said or something else, you need to take that as enough closure and try and move on. In terms of his stuff, he did move to a different state to be with you. At the very least you should respond to the email to let him know that it hasn't been shipped and arrange payment for him to get his belongings (if they're that important). If he suggests talking about the relationship, you can decide whether you're ready for that. But don't ever expect it or you'll be disappointed if it doesn't come. This is the message I responded to him with: "Do you think you can wire some money for me to ship your things or I can drop the boxes off at the post office and you can figure it out because I had to spend $400 on a new phone. "
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